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A New Way to Say Goodbye to Stress

…high, we often set ourselves up to later become a target for our critical inner voice. We start to have self-critical thoughts like: What is wrong with you? You never give 100 percent to anything. Can’t you just get one thing right? You’re such a failure! Even when times are tough or the pressure being placed on us is external, we can seek out an inner sense of calm by quieting those inner voices that exacerbate the problem. This is not meant to…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Critical Inner Voice and Psych-Ache: VIDEO

Dr. Christine Courtois talks about the critical inner voice and its effect on a person’s capacity for self-compassion. The following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC The whole issue of self-esteem and self-blame I find is so deeply embedded that it just takes a lot to be able to get there. You mentioned self-compassion. And a lot of the patients that I work with – they can’t…

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Are You Tricking Yourself Out of Love?

…about our (my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, and my) work on the “critical inner voice,” a self-destructive thought process we all possess. The host started the show by talking about all the media attention on terrorism and the fear we, as a nation, were feeling following the attacks of 9/11. She ended her introduction by saying, “But what if the worst enemy we face is the one residing inside ourselves, the critical inner voice?” I found her state…

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Beating Addiction: The Sneaky Role of the Critical Inner Voice

…destructive thought process every person possesses known as the “critical inner voice.” The role of this “voice” in addiction is incredibly powerful as it is much like a sadistic coach in people’s heads that first lures them into self-destructive behavior but then punishes them for being “weak” or a “failure.” Most people can identify how this inner critic punishes them for messing up or indulging in addictive behavior, but they don’t realize jus…

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How Negative Thoughts Are Ruining Your Life

…stacles they will encounter in life… their own inner critic. The “critical inner voice” is a concept I’m often introducing to new audiences. It’s the cornerstone of a theory and therapy technique developed by my father psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone. It is the basis of a book we co-authored titled Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice and the subject of many of my lectures, Webinars and my upcoming six-week eCourse “Overcome Your Inner C…

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How’s That Working for You?

…ing within our power is impossible, that is a sure sign that our “critical inner voice” has taken the wheel. This critical inner voice is the language of our defense system. It is based on negative attitudes we were exposed to early in our lives that we’ve identified with and internalized. Challenging our voices can shake up our entire sense of identity. It can make us feel unsafe, as it often means exposing painful aspects of our past that we may…

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Live Your Own Life

…arise along the way. The first enemy you will encounter is your “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is like a nasty coach that lives inside our heads. It consists of negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that oppose our best interests and diminish our self-esteem. It is our own worst enemy. This inner critic evaluates our every move, puts us down and undermines our desires with thoughts like: ”You don’t really want that, do you?”;…

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I Feel Lonely: What To Do When You’re Feeling Alone

…tive, self-critical thoughts. These thought patterns make up the “critical inner voice (CIV),” an internalized enemy that leads to self-destructive thought processes and behaviors. This inner critic feeds into our feelings of isolation, encouraging us to avoid others and remain in a lonely state. Although our critical inner voices may tell us otherwise, in reality, there is nothing inherently wrong with us that leads us to be lonely. It is a commo…

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Why Are We So Self Critical?

…down and doubts us when we’re up. Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice We’ve witnessed this critic in friends who’ve just experienced a break-up and are saying things like: What’s wrong with me? I’m unlovable. I’m destined to be alone. I’ll never find someone who really cares about me. We’ve seen it in ourselves just before a job interview: Don’t mess this up. I’m going to be too nervous. I sound like an idiot. What are they thinki…

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Low Self-Esteem: What Does it Mean to Lack Self-Esteem?

…s harsh inner critic, which Dr. Robert Firestone refers to as the Critical Inner Voice, contributes to a negative perceived self. Having a negative perception of oneself can have serious consequences. For example, if someone believes that other people don’t like them, they are more likely to avoid interactions with others and are quicker to react defensively, cynically, or even lash out. Rosenberg and Owen argue that “the nature and degree to whic…

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