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If you’re wrestling with difficult emotions and grief over the sudden loss of Kobe Bryant and his daughter today, we encourage you to read this wonderful post by @dr.bshabazz. We appreciate this compassionate approach to grieving. Our hearts go out to Kobe and Gigi’s family, the families of the other passengers, and all those grieving tonight. #Repost @dr.bshabazz
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We spend so much time following icons🏀on their journeys, and appreciating the meaning/value they add to our lives, that we feel as if ‘we know them’.
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The emotional connectedness we have to public figures we’ve never met is called a ‘parasocial relationship’.
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Loss of any kind is hard. And although the psychological effects can be the same, there are no social supports for ‘parasocial grieving’. In fact, we can be met with ridicule for ‘feeling something for someone we don’t even know’.
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If you find yourself experiencing this type of grief, just know:
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• You’re not delusional - focus on the meaning that this person brought to your life and decide how, and with whom, you want to honor that
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• This loss may trigger emotions related to other losses of close family members and friends
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• When to disconnect from media coverage - allowing the same information to play on a constant loop can be retraumatizing and increase distress
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• You have permission to take the time and space to grieve in the way that works for you - no one should ever tell you HOW or HOW LONG to GRIEVE...we all do it differently
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• It’s okay to reach out to someone who will listen, or a qualified mental health professional, if it gets to be too much to deal with on your own.
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#ripkobebryant #parasocialrelationship #lossishard #griefwork #grieving #kobebryant #lakersnation #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #youarenotalone #therapy #mentalhealthawareness
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We spend so much time following icons🏀on their journeys, and appreciating the meaning/value they add to our lives, that we feel as if ‘we know them’.
.
The emotional connectedness we have to public figures we’ve never met is called a ‘parasocial relationship’.
.
Loss of any kind is hard. And although the psychological effects can be the same, there are no social supports for ‘parasocial grieving’. In fact, we can be met with ridicule for ‘feeling something for someone we don’t even know’.
.
If you find yourself experiencing this type of grief, just know:
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• You’re not delusional - focus on the meaning that this person brought to your life and decide how, and with whom, you want to honor that
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• This loss may trigger emotions related to other losses of close family members and friends
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• When to disconnect from media coverage - allowing the same information to play on a constant loop can be retraumatizing and increase distress
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• You have permission to take the time and space to grieve in the way that works for you - no one should ever tell you HOW or HOW LONG to GRIEVE...we all do it differently
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• It’s okay to reach out to someone who will listen, or a qualified mental health professional, if it gets to be too much to deal with on your own.
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#ripkobebryant #parasocialrelationship #lossishard #griefwork #grieving #kobebryant #lakersnation #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #youarenotalone #therapy #mentalhealthawareness
Relationships challenge us in ways we don’t expect. Anxiety can arise at various points in a relationship from the moment we start dating to when we decide to make a symbolic commitment, like moving in together or getting married.
In large part, this anxiety has to do with our past. Circumstances and dynamics in our closest relationships often trigger old feelings such as insecurity, fear, rejection, or abandonment, or in contrast fears of being overwhelmed depended on of or diminished. They challenge long-held, negative ideas we have about ourselves and threaten defenses that made us feel safe early in our lives but actually hurt or limit our current relationships.
In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on why we experience relationship anxiety. She will explain where these fears come from and introduce methods that can help individuals overcome their relationship anxiety. The Webinar will reveal how, when armed with these introspective tools, individuals can create more secure attachments and enjoy closer, more fulfilling, and more loving relationships.
In large part, this anxiety has to do with our past. Circumstances and dynamics in our closest relationships often trigger old feelings such as insecurity, fear, rejection, or abandonment, or in contrast fears of being overwhelmed depended on of or diminished. They challenge long-held, negative ideas we have about ourselves and threaten defenses that made us feel safe early in our lives but actually hurt or limit our current relationships.
In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will shed light on why we experience relationship anxiety. She will explain where these fears come from and introduce methods that can help individuals overcome their relationship anxiety. The Webinar will reveal how, when armed with these introspective tools, individuals can create more secure attachments and enjoy closer, more fulfilling, and more loving relationships.
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