Relationships

You May Be Wrong About Your Attachment Pattern

One of the most profound influences on the way we behave in relationships is our early attachment patterns. As children, the attachment patterns we formed were based on adaptations we made in order to feel secure in our environment. The ways we were cared for and related to by our parents or primary caretakers led… Read more »

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What Does It Mean to Be Feminine or Masculine?

I have received some interesting questions on Daring2Love Instagram about masculine and feminine identity. A typical one asks, “How can I be more feminine in a relationship? How can I attract a masculine man to a relationship?” I do not know where the people who are asking these questions live. Clearly, there are very different attitudes about gender identity… Read more »

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How to Beat the 5 Types of Boredom that Arise in Relationships

We can all name the bad habits we get into when we and our partner are mutually bored. Maybe it’s the eyes glued to our cell phone screens in bed or afternoons filled with watching bad TV. We may feel it in the stretches of silence over dinner or the long, lazy minutes trying to… Read more »

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Why You Pick Fights with Your Partner… and How to Stop

 “I love you, so why do we fight so much?” This quandary is one that most couples face, leading them to question everything from their reality to their relationship to the rationality of love itself. After all, isn’t a certain amount of arguing normal? One recent survey found that couples argue an average of about… Read more »

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The Key to Healthy Communication

The other night at dinner, a man asked, “What do you suggest my girlfriend and I do to maintain good communication in our relationship?” What came to mind was all of the bad communication that I have observed between couples trying to have conversations with each other. And what struck me about all of these… Read more »

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3 Principles to Keep Love Alive

August is National Romance Awareness Month, and I am well aware that there are a gazillion blogs and unlimited advice out there about how to maintain romance in a relationship. Just google “keep romance alive” if you don’t believe me. And it’s really helpful advice: talk to each other, make time to be together, stay… Read more »

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3 Questions that Can Change the Way You Feel About Sex

Your sexuality is an important part of who you are. This is true regardless of whether you’re in a relationship and whether or not you’re having sex. Whatever your situation, being alive to your sexuality is about to being true to and accepting of yourself; it is not about anyone else. It can mean different… Read more »

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Getting the Love You Want

Breaking patterns to achieve better relationships Two questions I’ve heard frequently in my 30-plus years working with clients are “Why do my attempts at relationships keep ending in failure?” and “Are my standards too high? No one I want seems to want me.” The truth is that we all have different internal struggles that get… Read more »

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Daring to Love: Interview with Tamsen Firestone

Watch Now: Daring to Love  Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability, and Create Lasting Connection  

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Preserving Individuality to Strengthen Your Relationship

To maintain a successful relationship it is necessary that both people maintain their own individuality and respect the individuality of their partner. Each is concerned with their own and their partner’s continued development as a person. In my book, Daring to Love, I write about achieving this by remaining adult, open, undefended, and honest in… Read more »

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