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Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?

…eople’s confidence and faith in a mate’s trustworthiness. How the critical inner voice fosters trust issues in a relationship. Mistrust, doubts and suspicions are strongly influenced by the critical inner voice. This destructive thought process is part of the defense system we built as children; it consists of an internal dialogue that is antagonistic to our best interests and cynical toward other people. The critical inner voice is the culprit th…

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Self-Sabotaging: Why We Get in Our Own Way

…ssess, which psychologist and author Robert Firestone, calls the “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice doesn’t represent a positive sense of self that you can entrust in. Rather, it epitomizes a cruel “anti-self,” a part inside us that is turned against us. It casts doubt on our abilities, undermines our desires, and convinces us to be paranoid and suspicious toward ourselves and those close to us. This anti-self fills our mind with cri…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: An Adjunct to Clinical Practice

…our true wants, desires and goals) and a critical, coaxing and destructive inner voice that can sabotage, diminish, or undermine us. Psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone often refers to this internal enemy as an “anti-self” or “critical inner voice.” Learning to deal effectively with the “critical inner voice” is central to all areas of life: personal development, healthy relationships, self-esteem, and career success. This CE Webinar prov…

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Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

…the familial environment in which our self-image was formed. The critical inner voice and its disparaging views reinforce a negative identity. The voice continues to support the negative ways in which you were seen as a child. For example, if you were labeled the “irresponsible” one, your critical inner voice may say, You won’t amount to anything. You mess up every opportunity that comes your way. If you were the “chubby” one, your critical inner…

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Beating Addiction: The Sneaky Role of the Critical Inner Voice

…destructive thought process every person possesses known as the “critical inner voice.” The role of this “voice” in addiction is incredibly powerful as it is much like a sadistic coach in people’s heads that first lures them into self-destructive behavior but then punishes them for being “weak” or a “failure.” Most people can identify how this inner critic punishes them for messing up or indulging in addictive behavior, but they don’t realize jus…

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Fantasy Bond 101

…d with simple drawings. A while ago, I did a whiteboard about the critical inner voice, which was also challenging to describe. What should the critical inner voice look like? What are the attacks that most people could relate to? But it was a fun challenge. Now I’m wrestling with a concept that is even trickier to convey. So, the purpose of this blog is twofold: to organize my thoughts as I explain the fantasy bond to you in a clear and simple wa…

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4 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

…itical, self-denying or even self-soothing thoughts known as the “critical inner voice.” The purpose of this inner voice is to hold us back from what we want and to keep us in our place, so to speak. The critical inner voice is shaped from early life experiences, ways we were viewed and treated growing up. If we were regarded as a burden or told we were stupid, we will engrain these beliefs in our psyche, accepting them on some level as truth. We…

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Voice Therapy: Helping Clients Overcome Their Inner Critic – Online Workshop

…-step technique that can help clients challenge and overcome the “critical inner voice” that holds them back in life Insight into the developmental factors that lead a person to develop this destructive inner enemy Techniques to help clients identify destructive thoughts or voices that cause suffering and self-limiting behavior Strategies to help clients connect with their real self, wants, needs, and goals and identify achievable steps for positi…

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How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

…that we can. And one major way we can do it is by taking on our “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is a well-integrated pattern of negative thoughts toward ourselves and others that are at the root of much of our self-limiting and self-destructive behavior. This voice makes us feel like we are different and undeserving. Very often, when people feel their loneliest, they are very much in the company of this inner critic. Voice Therap…

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How to Stop Feeling Triggered by Your Partner

…red by our partner is that our own personal history as well as a “critical inner voice” in our heads is impacting what triggered us and why. While exploring these early influences can change how we feel and interact in our relationships, there are also strategies we can adopt here and now to help us when we get stirred up by our partner. No matter what we feel in a given moment, we can learn to react in healthier ways that don’t do lasting damage…

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