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The Space Around Thoughts

…g into a more attuned intrapersonal alignment, Welwood (2000) stresses the critical importance of exploring one’s whole cognitive gestalt, and all the parts that make up its sum: Our addiction to the grasping tendency of mind causes us to overlook the spaces around thoughts, the felt penumbra that gives our experience its subtle beauty and meaning. Neglecting these fluid spaces within the mindstream contributes to a general tendency to over-identi…

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What Real Love Looks Like

…e cling to a fantasy of finding an unrealistically perfect partner and are critical of any individual they enter into a relationship with because the person cannot live up to the picture they have painted so meticulously in their heads. Other individuals tend to idealize anyone they wind up in a relationship with, overlooking negative qualities in an effort to hold on to a fantasized image of their partner. Even when we choose partners for the rig…

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Division of the Mind: An Online Presentation

…  Every person is divided. Part of us is on our own side optimistic, and confident in our goals and abilities. Another part of us is against ourselves, self-critical, and even self-destructive. In this short presentation, Dr. Lisa Firestone explains this division. Why do we turn against ourselves? What holds us back from being who we really are and accomplishing what we seek to accomplish?  …

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Advice for Valentine's Day: Amplify the Romance in Your Relationship

…se to him. Eventually, he started to grow cynical toward her, even feeling critical of her for little things he used to admire. When she was away from him, he felt abandoned. In therapy, he recognized how his attempts to control, combined with her subservience, had diminished their attraction to each other. The woman he’d fallen in love with was independent, self-sufficient and opinionated. Yet, over time, he’d started to view her as a part of him…

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How to stop yourself from "losing it" with your child

…en. Though forcing a 4-year-old and 6-year-old to sit still and keep their voices down for hours at a time is no one’s favorite activity, by the time the fasten seatbelt light went off, my typically patient friend would already have come unglued. During the flight she’d find herself saying things like, “What is the matter with you? Why can’t you act like a grown up?” or “Next time, I’m not going to take you with me anywhere. Do you understand me?”…

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How to Not Lose the "Me" When Becoming a "We"

…eir fantasy is being disrupted. They become cynical and disillusioned, and critical of each other. Neither idealization nor cynicism has a place in a relationship between two adults who see each other as real people with positive attributes, amusing idiosyncrasies and personal limitations and flaws. Don’t distort your partner so that you can see him/her as perfect. Don’t try to avoid seeing your partner’s flaws. Don’t punish your partner for not l…

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The Importance of Tradition

…r cook, discerning how to take her place within a meaningful legacy. It is critical for children to be a part of family traditions. It connects them to that greater whole and leads to heightened empathy, a more fulfilling happiness and engaged citizenship. In the same way that composer Leonard Bernstein described the composition of music as “one note that follows another with complete inevitability,” we count on traditions, like a melody, for that…

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Reflections on a New Year: How to Become Your Best Self Webinar

…portant areas of their lives. By identifying and acting against these self-critical modes of thinking, people can enjoy more success in their jobs, more fulfilling relationships, and a strengthened sense of identity. Download Slides fromReflections on a New Year: How to Become Your Best Self To request a free full video recording of this webinar, please email [email protected] Upcoming Webinars: All Webinars are provided for free by The Glendo…

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Restoring Recess by Carol Krucoff, E-RYT

…hance your recess, mirrors may detract from your experience if you’re self-critical. If so, play outdoors or in a mirror-free room. 3. Consider a few sessions with a fitness professional—such as a personal trainer or yoga teacher—to help you get started. [Visit the web sites of the American Council on Exercise, www.acefitness.com or the International Association of Yoga Therapists www.iaty.org to find a qualified instructor.] 4. Vary your activity…

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How to Keep Your Marriage Close and Exciting

…at comes with having strong feelings for another person. 3. Be honest, not critical – Once we start feeling comfortable tearing our partners apart, we lose respect for them and for ourselves. Respecting a loved one means never mistreating them but being honest with them about who we are and what we feel. If a quality they have bothers us, we shouldn’t sit on it and let it seep out in cynical comments, the rolling of eyes or loss of attraction. Ins…

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