True Love: What Love Is and What It Is Not

True loveThe topic of true love has been debated for centuries.  Cynics often swear it doesn’t exist, while hopeless romantics think everyone should set out to find their soulmates.  With science now showing that true love is not only possible, but can actually last a lifetime, we’ve decided to look at the psychological elements that allow love to bloom or fade.

Let’s start by defining what true love really is:

What is True Love?

Dr. Lisa Firestone, co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, often says that the best way to think of love is as a verb. Love is dynamic and requires action to thrive. As Dr. Firestone wrote, “Often, we spend our time worrying about what our partner feels toward us or how the relationship looks from the outside. Even though it feels good to be loved by someone else, each one of us can only really feel our loving feelings for another person and not that person’s feelings for us. In order to connect with and sustain those loving feelings within us, we have to take actions that are loving. Otherwise, we may be living in fantasy.”

At times it may feel frustrating, but it’s actually pretty empowering to accept the fact that the only person we have any true control over in a relationship is ourselves. We are in charge of our half of the dynamic. Therefore, we can choose whether to engage in behaviors that are destructive to intimacy or whether to take actions that express feelings of love, compassion, affection, respect, and kindness. In order to consciously and consistently choose the latter, it’s valuable to look at the characteristics that in more than 30 years of studying couples, Dr. Robert and Lisa Firestone found to be vital to maintaining truly loving.

The father and daughter research team created what they call the “Couples Interactions Chart,” which compares the characteristics of an ideal relationship to those of what Dr. Robert Firestone termed a “fantasy bond.” The fantasy bond is an “illusion of connection and closeness [that allows couples] to maintain an imagination of love and loving while preserving emotional distance.” A fantasy bond forms when couples substitute real love and closeness for the form of being in a relationship. This bond diminishes the feelings of liveliness and attraction between individuals.

Characteristics of True Love vs. a Fantasy Bond

1. Non-defensiveness and openness vs. angry reactions to feedback

characteristics of a loving relationshipTo maintain closeness, couples should be open with each other, which means being willing to hear feedback from each other without being defensive or discouraging. Dr. Lisa Firestone advises couples to look for the kernel of truth in what they’re partner is saying. That truth can offer an important clue into ways we may be pushing our partner away without realizing it. Even if we don’t agree with everything, listening to our partner naturally makes them feel seen, heard, and cared about. On the other hand, punishing our partner for being honest and direct with us shuts down communication.

2. Open to trying something new vs. closed to new experiences

A relationship thrives when both people are in touch with a lively, open, and vulnerable side to themselves that welcomes new experiences. We don’t have to love and participate in everything our partner enjoys, but sharing new activities, visiting new places, and breaking routines often breathes new life into a relationship that feels invigorating to both people.

3. Honesty and integrity vs. deception and duplicity

To tell the truth is one of the first lessons most of us are taught as kids. Yet, as adults, there can be a lot of deception in our closest relationships. When we are dishonest with our partner, we do them, the relationship, and ourselves a great disservice. In order to feel vulnerable with our partner, we must trust them, and this can only be achieved through honesty.

4. Respect for the other’s boundaries, priorities and goals vs. overstepping boundaries

To avoid a fantasy bond, we have to see the other person as separate from us. That means respecting them as a unique, autonomous individual. Often, couples tend to take on roles or play into power dynamics. We may tell each other what to do or how to act. Or we may speak for and about each other in ways that are limiting or defining. Essentially, we treat them as extensions of ourselves rather than separate human beings.  As a result, we actually limit our own attraction to them. As Dr. Lisa Firestone says, “We treat the other person like our right arm. Then we are no more attracted to them than we are to our right arm.”

5. Physical affection and personal sexuality vs. lack of affection and inadequate, impersonal, or routine sexuality

how to find loveAffection is a huge part of how we express love. When we cut ourselves off to our feelings of affection, we tend to deaden the relationship. This weakens the spark between ourselves and our partner. Sexuality can become routine or impersonal, and as a result, both partners feel more distant and less satisfied. Keeping love alive means staying in touch with a part of ourselves that wants physical contact and is willing to give and receive affection.

6. Understanding vs. misunderstanding

It’s easy to project onto our partner or to misunderstand things they’re saying, either using them to feel hurt or attacked in old, familiar ways that resonate with us. It’s also easy to get stuck in our own point of view without seeing things from the other person’s perspective. We are always going to be two different people with two sovereign minds, so we won’t always see eye to eye. However, it’s important to really try to understand our partner from a clear point of view. When our partner feels seen and understood, they are much more likely to soften and see our perspective as well.

7. Noncontrolling, nonmanipulative and nonthreatening behaviors vs. manipulations of dominance and submission

Many couples find themselves wrapped up in dynamics where one acts like a parent and the other like a child. the-fantasy-bondOne looks to the other for guidance then resents that person for telling them what to do. Or one person tries to control the situation, then complains that the other person is irresponsible, immature, or passive. In order for a relationship to be truly loving, it must be equal. When one person tries to control or manipulate the other, be it by yelling and screaming or stonewalling and playing the victim, neither person is experiencing an adult, equal, and loving relationship.

Learn more about the Fantasy Bond in PsychAlive’s eCourse, The Fantasy Bond: The Key to Understanding Ourselves and Our Relationships

How to Create a Truly Loving Relationship

Now that we know the characteristics of real love, how can we take steps in ourselves to create a more loving relationship? First off, it’s important to acknowledge that despite these clear-sounding discrepancies between real love and fantasy, many people mistake one for the other. They may even prefer fantasy to reality, because it’s less painful to appear connected to someone than to actually feel connected to them.

Many of us become caught up in the fairy tale, the superficial elements, or the form of the relationship (i.e. how it looks as opposed to how it feels). We may fall in love with the illusion of connection or security of the situation offers, but we don’t let ourselves get too close to the other person. That is because, while most of us think we want love, we often actually take actions to push it away. That is why the first step to being more loving is to get to know and challenge our own defenses.

1. Challenging the defenses that limit true love

Many people have fears of intimacy of which they aren’t even aware. We may be tolerant of realizing our dreams of falling in love in fantasy, but very often we are intolerant of having that dream fulfilled in reality. Dr. Robert Firestone describes how being loved by someone threatens our defenses and reawakens emotional pain and anxiety from childhood. He’s posited that both giving and receiving love tend to disrupt the negative, yet familiar, ways we think about ourselves. “On an unconscious level, we may sense that if we did not push love away, the whole world as we have experienced it would be shattered and we would not know who we are.”

For these reasons, the biggest obstacle to finding and maintaining a loving relationship is often us. We have to get to know what defenses we bring to the table that ward off love. For example, if we grew up feeling rejected, we may feel anxious about getting too close to another person. We may not feel we can really trust or rely on a partner, so we either cling to that person or ward him or her off, both which lead to the same result of creating distance.

If we felt criticized or resented in our childhood, we may have trouble feeling confident or worthwhile in our relationships. We may seek out partners who put us down in ways that feel familiar, or we may never fully accept our partners loving feelings for us, because they threaten this early self-perception.

If we felt intruded on in our early lives or if we had an “emotionally hungry” parent, we may avoid intimacy altogether and feel pseudoindependent, or we may subconsciously seek out people who depend on us to meet all their needs and more. Again, both of these extremes can lead to relationships that lack real closeness and intimacy.

The good news is we can start to break these destructive relationship patterns by better knowing ourselves and our defenses. Why do we choose the partners we do? What are the qualities we’re drawn to – good and bad? Are there ways we distort or provoke our partner to act in ways that fit with our defenses? How do we create distance? What behaviors do we engage in that may feel self-protective but actually push love away.

Learn more about the Fear of Intimacy

2. Differentiation from the past influences that no longer serve you in the present

Dr. Robert Firestone has further developed an approach to challenging old, engrained patterns and defenses, a process he refers to as differentiation. This process involves four steps:

  • Differentiate from critical, punishing, and destructive attitudes that you internalized in your early lives
  • Differentiate from undesirable traits in your parents that you see in yourself
  • Challenge the defensive reactions you had (as a child self) that no longer serve you in the present
  • Formulating and learning to live by your own values – who do you want to be?

Taking these steps of differentiation allows us to live in a less defended state in which we go after what we really want in life.

Learn more about Differentiation

How to Make True Love Last

Many answers to why love fades can be found in understanding how and why we form a fantasy bond.  The fantasy bond is the ultimate defense against love. Even after we’ve dropped our guard and allowed ourselves to fall in love, as soon as we get scared, be it of losing our partner or differentiating from our old, familiar identity, we may turn to a fantasy bond to allow us to maintain an illusion that we are not alone, while preserving emotional distance from our partner. To avoid a fantasy bond, we should avoid the characteristics listed above but also take the following actions.

Actions to break a fantasy bond and become more loving:

  1. what is true loveBe affectionate. Find even the smallest ways to make contact and show affection and attraction.
  2. Slow down and be present. Make time to really talk and listen to your partner.
  3. Make eye contact. It sounds simple, but we often forget to just look at our partner.
  4. Try something old. Make time and don’t stop doing the activities you loved to do together.
  5. Try something new. Don’t just fall into routine. Keep suggesting new activities and be open to ones your partner suggests.
  6. Break routine. If doing the same thing is deadening your excitement, be open to breaking the habit and making space for spontaneity.
  7. Avoid passivity and control. Strive for an equal exchange of ideas. Take responsibility for your own actions and don’t try to control your partner.
  8. Talk as an “I” instead of a “we”. Remember you will always be two separate people and not to overstep boundaries which diminishes attraction.
  9. Be aware of your critical inner voice. We all have an inner enemy that criticizes ourselves and our partner and undermines our closest relationships
  10. Do something independently. Just because you’re a couple doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. Don’t give up friendships and activities you enjoy on your own and don’t aask you partner to either
  11. Communicate what you feel. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Saying what you want and feel directly helps you avoid passive-aggressive or nasty ways of relating. It also encourages your partner to do the same.
  12. Avoid the “tit for tat” mentality. Love is an action each of us must choose for ourselves. When we start measuring what we do for each other, we create expectations and breed resentment instead of staying in touch with how good it feels to be loving toward someone else.
  13. Support the things that light your partner up.  Never stop supporting and encouraging your partner to be the most alive and to do the things that make your partner feel the most like him/herself… even when those things aren’t what matter most to you.
  14. Take actions your partner would perceive as loving. Make sure the things you do are things that matter specifically to your partner. You may love getting flowers, but is that something that would make your partner feel loved?
  15. Don’t become closed off. It’s much too easy to shut down whenever we feel embarrassed, anxious, disappointed, or triggered by our partner, but we have to fight to not be closed off and push away the love that comes toward us.

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Sadly Single But Not By Choice

Real true love really existed in the past when the real good old fashioned ladies were around which today it is a very different story altogether unfortunately.


Love is not about the submission of a woman to a man, or vice versa. It is an emotion, and a choice, that affects our lives daily. If what you want is a perfect woman, you will never find it. I suggest strongly that you look within yourself and discover who you really are before you make haughty expectations for others. If you aren’t willing to wait on your partner, why should she wait on you? If you’re disillusioned to women, how will you ever fall in love freely with one? If you’re very sexually experienced, do you really expect to marry a virgin?

Oberon Pan

True. It states right there in the article that love is a verb. It’s something you do, not something you feel.


actually its more of a noun than a verb, and one can indeed feel love, the feeling of when you’re in love release all those little happy chemicals in your head. it makes you feel all warm and happy, whether its infatuation or real. the difference is the infatuated kind won’t last you long.


Love, as a noun, is not an emotion per se, but an attraction, acceptance and affection towards someone or something. Hate is a type of repulsion and rejection. The elements of love require some attraction, agreement at some level and communication. The intensity of love can vary based on the level of attraction, agreement and communication. The more you communicate things both partners find positive and agreeable, beneficial and of interest, the more the relationship will flourish. One way love can exist (as in unrequited love) but true love requires mutual communication, mutual attraction and shared interests with some commonality in how each view reality.

Love as a verb is the action of expressing or being in love (as a noun) as we love each other.

Ma. Cristina

Love is indeed an emotion because I can feel it. I doubt you have really experienced to be in love. It is a feeling and an action that is from the feeling itself. You can act without a feeling, and that is not true love. But you can’t feel it if you don’t really have a love for someone.


Pierce, women back in the old days made love very easy to find compared to today. Now most women have their very high unrealistic expectations and standards. May they grow very old all alone with their Cats.


Women in the past had real class compared to the very horrible ones that are everywhere these days. Today feminism is cancer.


This is a classic epistle I have read about love and its meaning. A detailed study of the above, one will find out that there are many who think that they are in love why they are not. For instance, a young man whose parents were opposing the lady he wanted to marry. The young man screamed at his parent, ” if I can’t marry her I will die” In less than six months of their marriage, the same young man again screamed at his parent, “if she doesn’t leave this house, I will kill her” Can one say that the young man and his woman were in love in the first place?

One thing i knew about love is that those who say they are in love, they must be ready and willing to sacrifice for each other and as well as do things that will make the love to grow.

Our True Other Half

Enjoyed the info. Very informative and eye opening. Best advice I’ve read thus far. I still believe that we are capable of loving Someone for a lifetime. I believe that whatever characteristics and behavior you had when u met, u should consider growing along the same during your lifetime. Yes we change, when we truly love, our moral compass should be pointed in a common direction. Most enlightening thing I learned from this read was to remain an individual.

Xoe jarlyn

What I know about true is that love that shares good times together but most importantly when it has the power to over come all the misunderstandings between the two of you only that power can lead to everlasting love. Cause we all break up because we feel we can’t take it anymore and can’t even fight the misunderstandings between us. But true love exists just that it is rare


My rational and scientific mind read and agreed with a lot of what was said in this article. However, I am one of those hopeless romantics (as stated) who yearns for more than what life is currently giving. Just today I finished a story which was one of those “love at first sight” kind of romances. I’m currently at a point where I’m close to miserable, not just with my relationship but also the rest of my life in general, and I’m sure that my relationship plays a major role why I feel the way I do.

I have been told so many things in my life and never really had good examples of a “healthy” relationship. Which is probably why I cling to this Hollywood idea of “love at first sight” and undying love for another. I was once told that a relationship should come naturally. Yes you have a few disagreements, but for the most part, it should flow without major issues or effort. Then, there is everyone else saying that relationships take work and nothing comes easy. But how do we know which is true? Are there really relationships out there were the couple have this ultimate connection and never truly have to work too much to keep it flowing? Do we just think that isnt the case because so many have never found that and have just excepted that relationships do truly take a lot of time and effort? Which is real?

That is the question I want to answer. I’m still young and I don’t want to waste my time being miserable or working so very hard to keep up a relationship that in the end, will not work.

Can anyone tell me the truth?

Anu agarwal

It ebs and flows. At times it will fell effortless and other times it takes effort. The key is to hang in there during the times it’s a bit harder, know it will pass, and truly relish the ride when it’s easy.


Although there are ebbs and flow In a relationship , if a relationship is more effort and work then it is mutually loving and easy going then, I would consider that the partnership might not compatible. Every relationship comes with its issues, baggage and work , but if the good outweighs the bad then the partnership is worth the effort and keeping.


In my experience, love feels easy and joyful most of the time. We have problems that come up, especially when one or both of us are under stress. Those are the times when we work at our relationship, but it doesn’t feel like “hard work” or forcing it, because both of us are trying equally hard. We’re both trying to fix the issues as a team. And the good far outweighs the bad overall. Sending you my best wishes to figure out what’s right for you in your relationship


Love is so uncertain. I married what I though the love of my life. There were great times but a lot of bad times. Be strong this of only yourself be you own person and don’t settle for just love. But honesty,if anyone is ever really honest, . Just love yourself and you don’t need anyone to make you happy just you. I have learned this at age 75. Don’t wait!!


Love was very easy to find many years ago since women were a lot different back then. Today they have really changed for the worst of all unfortunately.


Well women in the past were very old fashioned and accepted their men for who they were back then, and money was never an issue like most women want today. The great majority of women these days want a man with money, and have very high unrealistic expectations now more than ever. So it is really the women today that have really changed unfortunately, and most women back in the past weren’t like today at all as you can see in case you haven’t noticed. Very easy for a man to find love in the old days, since many of us single men really can’t find love today even when we try. That is why our family members were very lucky back then when they met one another.

And That Is Fact

Most women in the past made love very easy to find. Very different women many years ago, compared to today.


Most women back in the past had much better manners and a very good personality, something they don’t have today at all unfortunately.

Milena Videnova

True love could be a way of expression or act of giving yourself to someone who understands you with all of you


True love is real but rare. I fell madly in love with my friend’s sister 35 years ago. Both of us have raised children, had unsuccessful marriages. I thought she had a perfect life and I had nothing to offer. Instead she moved from abusive man to abusive man, and lived a poor, tragic life. I married an immigrant woman and raised her to prominence in the community, and she treated me like garbage once she had the things she desired. Now after living 30 years without contact, my true love and I reconnected and we can still complete each other’s sentences. She loved me as well, but thought she wasn’t good enough for me! We’re empathic and everything just flows with us. There are no misunderstandings. We know each other so intimately yet every day each of us finds something new in the other. And these discoveries, whether joyous or painful, bring us closer and reaffirm our love. We really are two halves of a whole. Each of us completes the other. Every day is new and amazing.


True love is when you see everything you have ever wanted in someone, and also some things that you didn’t even think you can settle for, but you ended up settling for it, true love is when you know you have many options out there, that can be better for everyone around you, but you chose to be with that specific person, true love is willing to grow with that person and work on your flaws together, give them your hand to be the best version of themselves, and don’t give up, you might have a lot of hard times, relationships are not always rainbows and butterflies, love will show in your actions, how you are dealing with those hard times, and are you willing to give up on that person to satisfy your ego? Or are you willing to accept him and grow with him and help him work on him self to get over his insecurities and traumas? Love talks louder in actions and situation than it does talk in words.
Stay blessed


My boyfriend likes and looks forward to doing everything together and consistent intimacy 24/7. I like it too, but if this were to be the case for the rest of our lives, would it be damaging in any way to our relationship?


True love is eternal. It cannot be stolen. True love is responsive,transparent,faithful. It is really difficult to find true low these days. Love is choosing someone again and again. Too busy is a myth, people make time for important things and for what they love.


True Love is knowing when there is so much you don’t know. A gut feeling deep within you that nobody can take away, destiny. True Love always finds a way, it’s not what everyone hopes for it to be.

Atima Oscar

True Love is knowing when there is so much you don’t know. A gut feeling deep within you that nobody can take away, destiny. True Love always finds a way, it’s


True love is a choice. Like I choose to wait for my man to come home from deployment with trust, patience and faith in him. Even if you have doubts you still choose to trust him because you want your relationship to work and spend a whole life for him.


It depends from person to person,it’s a bond felt by the person,It’s just not something called pure, there is more to it,It depends how strong you care and feel for the person more than the person’s feelings for you.
It’s something motherly which you can sacrifice or care selflessly, that’s why very less people can experience love,it also depends on how close and open to each other and how close you are as a partner, so it’s like friendship on deeper levels and you can do everything you want together or at least the person should be on your friend circle or closer and they both fall into same category not different so most importantly it’s not something you will do with your friends and sacrificing your love, because if you really close together you don’t Need to leave your love to do it with your friends


Everything in this article is true – but I don’t know that it is possible to move beyond barriers to love until experience peels back the layers of conditioning. I am with the same man I have – for a better half of a decade- been in an on and off relationship which was formed in a fantasy bond, maintained on a trauma bond. We finally separated for a year and during that time I formed a fantasy bond with another man who, in his willingness to pretend to be my fantasy while secretly degrading me in ways no other has. Seeing who he was and how my fantasy enabled me to participate in such a fake, gross, abomination of love forced me to see that on a deeper level I never loved any man in my almost 40 years… it has always been about me and my fantasies. My partner had his own maturing experiences during our time apart. We reconnected ready to love each other and while we’ve had to practice and notice the old patterns – we’ve peeled them away through healthy interaction. We now love each other with compassion and empathy and protect our bond knowing it requires commitment and effort on both our parts to be self aware, not project and take responsibility for our own moods, habit etc. Love doesn’t fix your life, but you can’t have it until you know that much like a garden, you have to work to dow seeds and weed it for it to bear food.

minfest magic

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Bhargava Ji

It is the great blog post .It is the helfpul and informative blog .I am always read your blog . I like it thanks for sharing this information with us .


When the real good old fashioned women were around many years ago which made love so very easy to find in those days. Men never had a problem back then, and today it is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.

Pandit R.B Swami ji

It is the great blog post.It is the helfpul and informative blog .I am always read your blog . I like it thanks for sharing this information with us .


I can’t control my feelings. You a lot to do with why I fell in love with you. I will always love you. I have no choice but to accept that you want something and someone better than me in life. U deserve everything and I hope u find what you are looking for.


Well, as a women, I don’t think that you are fully wrong, but partially yes. It is not only women who have changed, the whole society and its perspective has changed. If you are talking about money, then I must say that yes, there are women who are after money, but there are men as well who are behind women’s money. Just saying that women changed is much hypocrite of you. Then, just think once, if you were back if the last two centuries, when divorce was not taken as a good approach, and your better half was an abuser, would you really want to live with them.
Just a simple advice, stop generalizing how people are, there are different types of men, kids, women and LGBT community people. Also to me arranged marriage is something which I don’t really accept because if I never met a person how will I know what they are like. So, sorry to say this, along with women, men have also changed to worse, many men have become abusers to their wives and children.


Then there are many of us good single men that really do know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love, respect, and commitment. And it is very unfortunate that many of us men just can’t meet a good woman, no matter how hard we try.


The real good old fashioned women were the very best years ago compared to today, which most of them really were at that time. What in the world happened to these women today? Oh i really know, Feminism.


Oh, I’m sorry, does it bother you that women now have the opportunity to vote? To voice their opinions? To have equal rights to men in terms of opportunities and wealth? By definition, feminism is the equality between sexes. Do not blame your relationship issues on women wanting equal rights.

I Agree With Anonymous

Why don’t you go and get yourself a bunch of cats for pets, sounds like you will need them for company.

Josephus Leakpei

The lessons taught in this article is very rich and quite enough to teach anyone in finding a true relationship; but from my perspective, accept this is accompanied by the leading of the most high God, we can never easily find that true love in our dispensation.
Thanks to the author a lot.


Real love really happened many years ago when our family members met one another back then since women were very much old fashioned, and it wasn’t about money at all back then either. Both men and women in those days didn’t have much at all, and had to work real hard on top of it all. Women today now have very high expectations and are very spoiled, greedy, and very selfish, since they just want everything they can get. This is why love is very difficult to find for so many of us men nowadays because of this.


Our family members are real proof when they met one another back then, since now women are the very complete opposite from the past making love not so easy to find for so many of us single guys now unfortunately.

Stuck on Alex Allison

Why does it hurt when you’ve fallen for someone? I’ve been stuck on this beautiful British woman for quite some time:

Of course I’m nowhere near her league and she’ll NEVER give me the time of the day. I’ve tried talking to her but she ignores me so I’ve no choice but to walk away but occasionally view her social media but… it hurts. I know I’m not crazy nor am I stalker. I’m just so attracted to her beauty, talent and that magnificent voice of hers. I know it’s not magic because the first time I laid my eyes on her I was so mesmerized and been stuck on her ever since. I have talked with her a couple of times but that was it.

Because I left her name and url perhaps someday she’ll read this comment and know that somebody is always thinking about her.
I haven’t been in a relationship for quite some time and talk to women all the time so it’s not as if I’m desperate. Just that I’m deeply attracted to her so much but… it’s quite the opposite for her.

With this being said. I like to get some feedback from the author regarding this situation I’m in.

Thank you and I look forward to your response.


Since most women were very old fashioned and real ladies back many years ago, that made love very easy to find in those days.

roland genereux

it appears from the commentary that a lot of people want to live in the past instead of concentrating on the present

C. H.

The reason my marriage developed a fantasy bond and failed was more or less because my spouse refused to do their own work. I appreciate the content on PsychAlive, but I find that it puts a tremendous amount of responsibility on the reader in a way that comes across as shaming. I put in so much work for years, and I ate up everything on this site at the end of that relationship, desperately trying to reach the promised land PA describes. Re-reading it now is cringeworthy at how much pressure is put on the party who happens to be reading this. Newsflash: if your relationship has gotten this bad, you have to stop trying to fix the relationship by reading internet articles and actually look at who each of you are. Simple question: is this the treatment you would tolerate in a friendship? That question helped me leave my horrible marriage, and it keeps me from leaving relationships that are in a tough patch but are healthy and good for me.

web Editor

I really loved reading your blog. It was very well authored and easy to understand. Unlike other blogs I have read which are really not that good.Thanks alot!


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