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6 Suggestions for Parents in the Digital Age

…perience and relationships. If you need a quiet dinner, plan a date night. Developmentally, the younger the child is when these expectations are put in place, the more easily they will be able to implement and maintain. Follow-through in a calm and firm manner is critical to unplugging the child from the device and the device from parts of your family life. The power and convenience of technology cannot be underestimated. Turning our back on this…

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Innovations and Conveniences: Ups and Downs of Parenting in the 21st Century

…erable our children’s neurology is and how their experiences shape who they are and how they function. High reward experiences can become preferable to real world experiences and impair judgment and function. To support the development of resilience, we have to help our children face the challenges of everyday life and learn about their emotional selves. Innovations and conveniences can be a support but there can be too much of a good thing!…

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7 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

…, to shed destructive layers from our past that limit us in our lives and become who we really seek to be. This process is essential for parents, and it’s one I will be teaching both a free Webinar this August and an online course on this fall titled “Compassionate Parenting: A Holistic Approach to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children.” For all parents, looking for answers on how to be the best parent they can be, the key is often to venture into…

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What History Tells Us About the Dangers of Separating Children from Parents

…hat maternal care and love are essential for a child’s mental health,” and ruptures to this attachment can have dire emotional and developmental consequences. Around this same period just after World War II, researchers were further noticing that children in orphanages who were physically cared for and fed, but who weren’t interacted with or nurtured psychologically, did poorly emotionally and developmentally, and even physically, showing failure…

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Separation Theory

…ss. However, psychoanalysis fails to deal effectively with the significant role that death anxiety plays in life and its powerful impact on the ongoing development of the individual. On the other hand, existential psychology focuses on understanding the importance of death awareness and dying on the personality, as well as other issues of being, such as individuation, autonomy and transcendent goals. However, existential psychology tends to neglec…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Roots of Suicide and Early Attachment

…’s where my particular work comes in. As you know, my work is on the early development of the brain. But also how that early development is influenced by the attachment relationships. So now we’re looking at, not biological OR psychological models, but models through which these both interact. And it’s been said that nature and nurture first come together in the mother/infant relationship. And as you’re well aware now, all the major psychotherapy…

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Fantasy Bond

…y bond Read more about the Fantasy Bond The fantasy bond is a form of self-parenting and self-protection that offers an illusion of pseudo-independence at the expense of real relating. The degree of reliance on the illusion of connection or fantasy bond is proportional to the degree of frustration and pain experienced in a person’s developmental years. The concept of the fantasy bond was introduced by psychologist and author of The Fantasy Bond, D…

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Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?

…Bowlby, and D.W. Winnicott. Each wrote extensively about trust and the key role it plays in children’s ongoing growth and development. Erikson proposed that infants develop basic trust when they have successfully resolved the first psychosocial crisis (or opportunity) in life, the conflict between Trust and Mistrust. A baby being raised by adults who respond consistently in trying to meet its needs develops trust by the end of the first year. Erik…

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Video Playlist: Self-Development

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Facing Into the Rough Winds of a Challenging Time

…ugh their lives. Here are some specific suggestions to support you in this role: Check in with your children about information they are hearing or seeing (magazines, newspapers, social media, TV, etc.) Be curious, explore with they what they understand. Share honestly what you know (facts) and what you are doing that is supporting their safety. Assure your children that you are watching out for them; it is your responsibility to take care of them,…

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