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Nerf Guns – What Are We Afraid of? by Debra Kessler, Psy.D.

…that are available when they are overwhelmed by their distress. So what do Nerf guns have to do with this? There seems to be a belief that if we keep our children away from objects that express anger in violent or destructive ways, such as Nerf guns, our children won’t grow up to be violent or destructive. While this may seem logical, it assumes that our children are the sum total of what they are allowed/not allowed to do and dismisses the fact t…

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Imperfect Parenting: Rupture and Repair

…eveloping sense of self. While its obviously best to try to minimize toxic ruptures, ruptures can be repaired, and not all is lost. Repair first and foremost, involves parental insight and awareness that then leads to a type of healing reconnection. For instance, for me it means noticing when I’m being emotionally reactive, stopping in my tracks and analyzing the situation. Next, I tune in to the experiences and feelings of my daughter. From here…

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“Stuck” A life lesson on parenting by Debra Kessler, Psy.D.

…depression, autism/Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD, learning challenges, regulatory difficulties and other issues that interfere with children reaching their potential. Other Posts by This Author: Nerf Guns – What Are We Afraid Of? We Attend to our Children’s Overbite, How about Challenges in their Learning? More—- To Learn More Visit drdebrakessler.com…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Resilience and the Balance of Rupture and Repair

…ow that really is key because in the end, it turns out that the ability to repair ruptures are what allows for the tolerance of negative affect. And actually, we now are pretty sure that trust is not there in the child because it’s heaped upon the baby by the positive mother, (rather) it’s there because they go through stressors and there is a rupture, there is the repair. So that means in this type of work, there will be many, many instances of r…

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Parenting advice, parenting, Tina Bryson

Knowledge, Instinct, and Self-Understanding: Basic Parenting Tips | By Dr. Tina Bryson

…tools and approaches to help you more easily manage your children and the role of parenting in a way you feel good about. Knowledge is also powerful when it comes to dealing with developmental phases and challenges, from the early newborn days all the way through adolescence. When a new mother becomes frustrated because her six-week-old is nursing every hour all day long, a part of her may begin to resent the infant because of this loss of freedo…

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Your Role in Your Child’s Development

…in a mutual weaning process. When your child transitions to a new stage of development, the parenting that was essential at the previous stage is no longer suitable. Therefore, at each stage of development, you must adjust and evolve your care giving so that it is appropriate to that stage. At the beginning of life, the child is totally dependent on the parent who must provide for all of the infant’s needs. As the child grows up, gradually becomin…

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The Effects of Honesty, Empathy, and Higher Order Thinking on Moral Development

…development cannot be broadly generalized once one takes into account the role of gender in the development process. The expectations we have for a specific gender to act a certain way can be dangerous toward the child’s happiness. We tend to nurture and baby females while teaching our males to be tough and manly. Dr. Carol Gilligan, a major researcher on the topic of moral development, found that because of societal variations in the raising of…

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The Impact of Parenting on Child Development: An Interview with James Garbarino

…In this DVD, Dr. James Garbarino discusses a variety of topics related to parenting and child development. He addresses issues concerning parents and mental health professionals alike, such as parental guidelines, the impact of parents as role models, the disconnect that often exists between parents’ intentions and their behavior, and the impact of technology on child development. Dr. Garbarino also draws upon his wealth of experience to discuss…

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Helping Parents Distinguish Love from Emotional Hunger

…confidence and teach them to be dependent. An important aspect of healthy parenting is accepting our imperfections and broadening our child’s world. No parent is perfect. We, therefore, do our children a great service by offering them a healthy extension of influences in their lives. This affords them a broad base of security; a condition Attachment Parenting does not support. The mentality that it takes a village to raise a child is one that’s b…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Parenting: VIDEO

…speak or they’ve lost their temper or whatever, they can then go back and repair. And it’s those repair experiences that are so significant that let the child know that they’re responded to, they’re in the parent’s mind. The parent is mindful of having mis-stepped and come forward and tried to make up for and let the child know again that they’re cherished.   LF When parents kind of lose it with kids or when they find themselves struggling, what…

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