…has learned from her years as a couples’ therapist. Shifting her focus to parenting, Dr. Love offers her perspective on how to raise emotionally healthy children. “Parenting is simply about providing love, structure and protection,” she explains, emphasizing that it is important for parents to set limits for their children but not “hover” over them. This DVD is packed with useful information for introspective individuals and mental health profess…
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…through the dance of life allowing each partner to move forward and grow. Nerf Guns – What Are We Afraid Of? For the holidays I gave a Nerf gun to my 8-year -old nephew. He was delighted. It was his first Nerf gun. He took great joy in taking aim at the window, door or any place where he was allowed to shoot. It was the first time I saw genuine spontaneous pleasure cross his otherwise polite and reserved face. Unfortunately, it will probably be h…
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…hem effective and healthy ways to cope with and overcome this challenging time and any future challenges they may face. Resources for Parents: Just For Kids: A Comic Exploring The New Coronavirus Parenting With COVID-19 World Health Organization: Healthy Parenting How to Help Teens Shelter in Place Everything Free and Awesome Online To Do While Kids Are Home …
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…e acknowledges this error and with the client, “talks it through” so as to repair the rupture to their relationship and move forward with therapy. This talking through involves the therapist having a dual focus, one part being on their internal experience and another being the experience of the client. The therapist invites the client to express how he/she experiences the rupture and validates his/ her reality of how he/she experienced the event….
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…rcent of the time. However, as Dr. Siegel puts it, if parents are able to “repair the ruptures” that occur between them and their kids, a secure attachment can be sustained. The “working model” of relationships that a securely attached child forms is that you can trust others to be there for you when you need them. Children who form a secure attachment grow up better able to maintain their unique sense of identity, while still being able to connec…
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…thy children. They will be featured in an upcoming e-Course “Compassionate Parenting,” presented through PsychAlive. The six-week online multi-media course is different from most parenting classes in that it addresses the parent as a person. It asks parents to have a passion for their own lives that will naturally extend to their children, to lead by example and to be courageous in their willingness to know themselves. There is one thing that will…
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…Syndrome Recently several best-selling books as well as a number of child development experts have focused their attention on the growing trend of “helicopter parenting” and have described its negative effects on children and adolescents. These writers point out how parents’ tendencies to hover and overprotect their kids are destroying children’s initiative and making them feel incompetent and inadequate. . Your Child’s Self Esteem Starts With Yo…
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…g emotional pain and the threat of ego-disintegration (Firestone & Catlett, 2009). Like other defenses, developing an insecure attachment strategy was an adaptation to the stress induced by the lack of security and faulty parenting practices we experienced early in life. These defensive attachment strategies were strengthened and became firmly established in our personality when we first became aware of death. As adults, our core conflict centers…
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…fication from an imagined connection with the introjected parent. The Self-Parenting Process As I have stated, the fantasy bond is essentially a way of parenting oneself internally through fantasies of fusion. The imagined merger with one’s parent is reinforced through the use of self-parenting behaviors. These include self-nourishing habit patterns as well as self-punishing attitudes and behaviors. Children come to treat themselves much as they w…
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…owing what you want for your child and helping him get there is the job of parenting. Ideally, each of the hurdles are managed, and things move forward. The problem is when your child stumbles in making progress on these goals. Along the way, parents look for and try many strategies. You may look at consequences, thinking that if they are strong enough, the behavior will come into line. This may include intensifying reminders (i.e., nagging), chec…
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