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6 Major Influences that Stop You from Becoming Your True Self

…in their own upbringing tend to be detrimental to their healthy growth and development of the child’s emerging self (Cassidy & Mohr, 2001). Parental deficiencies lead to insensitive treatment and repeated failures to repair painful exchanges between parent and child. For example, physical and sexual abuse of children is far more common and their effect far more damaging to their sense of self than most people recognize (Edwards et. al., 2003). Chi…

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Parenting to Grow Self-awareness and Self-management

…rt of trial and error learning and essential to growing critical thinking. Parenting oriented to building their child’s self-awareness fosters self-management. As the child’s self-management emerges, they more often behave appropriately in the context and become more responsible. They learn who to trust, how to care for their bodies, and demonstrate the capacity to navigate the challenges of launching successfully. In addition, parents who support…

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How to stop yourself from "losing it" with your child

…to know us as a real and vulnerable person, and it will also permit us to repair our own sense of self. Following these types of outbursts, parents are often plagued by guilt and self-recrimination, but by tracing our anger to its real source, we can have compassion for ourselves. During their conversation, both child and parent are being repaired as they make sense of a senseless situation. It can be the start of a détente that would put an end…

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The Role of Death Anxiety on Attitudes and Behavior Aroused by the Pandemic

…l and psychological well-being. Terror management theory is focused on the role that awareness of death plays in diverse aspects of life. In this webinar, Dr. Solomon will discuss the theory’s implications for understanding the widely varying ways in which people have responded to the COVID-19 pandemic. Regardless of whether one consciously believes that the virus is a major threat to life or only a minor inconvenience, fear of death plays an impo…

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Benefits of Mindful Parenting

…Yet, it’s moments like these that make mindfulness such a valuable tool in parenting. As a practice, it’s easy to see how mindfulness can help us in raising our children. Our kids are capable of setting off a wide range of emotions in us. At times of stress, they often trigger unresolved issues from our own childhoods. In those moments, our reactions to them may be inappropriate to the present and are instead, based on the past. By being more mind…

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VIDEO: Optimal Parenting

…Alive Senior Editor Lisa Firestone, Dr. Donna Rockwell talks about optimal parenting. Watch or read the interview below. But really, the best that we can teach them is by being interested in them as people. And instead of saying I need you to be a doctor or a lawyer or a candle maker, to discover, what do you love about life and what’s interesting to you and what do you want to be, you know, tell me. And they are born already gifted, already extra…

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Parenting from the Inside Out

…and Mary Hartzell M. Ed. – The way we were treated as children shapes the development of our brain. This book by psychologist Dan Siegel and child development specialist Mary Hartzell explains how our traits as parents evolve from our own childhood experiences. Based on Siegel’s research of fascinating neurobiological studies and Hartzell’s 30-years experience working with parents and children, the book details how parents can better relate to th…

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3 Essential Steps to Take Before Getting Angry at Your Kids

…al experiences comes from linking experience to words. We can nurture this development when we explore with our children what happened around them and inside them that drove the difficult behaviors. This process builds the capacity for hindsight and grows insight, both vital to building self-regulation and self-management. This is the holy grail for parents. This is the privileged space where we can foster self-respect, self-esteem, and self-aware…

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Addiction: The Causes of Abuse and Dependence And How to Break the Cycle

…evalent than you might think: Average age of onset of first use for boys is 12; For girls it is 12½ One in five American adolescents between the ages of 12 and 17 engage in abusive/dependent or problematic use of illicit drugs or alcohol More young people in the United States use alcohol than use tobacco or illicit drugs Overcoming Fear to Reach Out and Build Connections Addiction is so scary and alarming for people to think about, that it’s hard…

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5 Ways Working on Ourselves Can Benefit Our Kids

…e of our story, the more we will be able to be attuned to our children and repair ruptures when they occur. We can come to know ourselves better and understand the source of our difficult, inappropriate, overreactions as parents. We’ll be able to make sense of the feelings that are stirred rather than being ruled by them. We’ll be able to challenge our critical inner voice by recognizing where it came from and rejecting its false messages about wh…

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