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Effectively Intervening with Violent Behavior: An Interview with Peter Fonagy

…fective methods of intervening with violent behavior. He begins with child development, emphasizing that early attachment often inhibits violent tendencies. Providing viewers with a series of effective examples, Dr. Fonagy discusses the importance of mentalization or self-reflective functioning as a method for intervening with violence. He also addresses social factors affecting violence, as well as certain risk factors and thoughts that drive vio…

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How to Befriend Yourself: A Psychotherapeutic Approach to Living

…ilize their personal power and actively contribute to their own growth and development, in essence becoming their own ally. In this regard it is most important to become aware of the enemy within, the negative thoughts and attitudes that play a significantly destructive part in your life. These inner voices are directed largely toward the self but may also be directed toward others, particularly one’s partner and loved ones. In either, case they h…

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Self-Reflective Approach to Becoming a Better Parent

…Becoming a better parent doesn’t only involve our present actions. To truly develop ourselves as parents, it is important to look at our own past . Child development expert Joyce Catlett talks about how making sense of our own childhood experiences can help us to become better parents to our children….

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Voice Therapy: A Psychotherapeutic Approach to Self-Destructive Behavior

…s cognitive, existential, and psychoanalytic frameworks and is a comprehensive theory of resistance to any form of psychotherapeutic intervention, personal progress, or development. 1988, New York: Human Sciences Press 2001, Santa Barbara: The Glendon Association ISBN: 0967668433…

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Is Your Past Controlling Your Life?

…of these attitudes is particularly adaptive or beneficial to our personal development. Although, these approaches to the past may seem entirely contradictory, they actually lead to the same ultimate outcome. If we avoid facing the past, we fail to recognize the many, often limiting, ways it’s influencing our present. On the other hand, if we over-identify with and ruminate on our childhood experiences, we still find ourselves being ruled by these…

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The Curse of the Box Set and Instant Streaming

…viously experienced in any other media. We have longer to view the arc and development which may mirror our own, I know I have experienced a real loss as the end credits rolled in Californiacation. Hank moody had been in my life for 7 years. Then gone forever, like losing a friend or loved one almost – someone that I look up to, makes me laugh and can learn from (or his mistakes) on some sort of level. What I am trying to portray is that a TV seri…

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Self-Sabotaging: Why We Get in Our Own Way

…ere directed toward us by parents or influential caretakers throughout our development. For example, if our parent saw us as lazy, we may grow up feeling useless or ineffective. We may then engage in a self sabotaging thoughts that tell us not to try, i.e.“Why bother? You’ll never succeed anyway. You just don’t have the energy to get anything done” In a similar manner, children can internalize negative thoughts that their parents or early caretake…

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Be Happy Now!

…ive. This awareness of what’s going on in the present is known in personal development circles as Mindfulness and is a great way to tap into the here and now. From awareness follows acceptance and/or action. Perhaps you choose to simply acknowledge that this is a tough moment, that there is fear or uncertainty in you. That’s OK, too. Sometimes it can be more helpful to sit with a negative emotion for a minute or two to see what’s causing it, to ai…

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Are You a Narcissist?: InfoGraphic

…others support. 3. How Can We Counter Narcissism? One way, to counter the development of narcissism is to place an emphasis on and teach self-compassion over self-esteem, particularly unwarranted self-esteem, where adults over-praise children, offering them a build up for talents or traits they do not possess. Research from Dr. Kristin Neff shows that high or inflated self-esteem correlates with narcissism, whereas self-compassion does not. Neff…

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How You Know When To Let a Friend Go

…out yourself rather than better, then chances are it is unhealthy for your development as a person.   Though I have not spoken to my friend in almost a year, I still think about her often. I reminisce on the great times, and I do not feel anger for what took place throughout the years. I realize that we are all different and that is the beauty of being individuals. She has amazing qualities, as do I, but our qualities were not in sync which eventu…

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