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How to Become More Adult and Successful in Your Life

…f death. Latent or actual death anxiety acts as a core resistance to adult development. In Beyond Death Anxiety: Achieving Life-Affirming Death Awareness, I wrote, “Facing issues of mortality can imbue life with a special meaning in relation to its finality and heighten an awareness of the preciousness of each moment…” When death fears surface in the course of everyday life, you can face up to the realization of your personal mortality, identify t…

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Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy

…for helping professionals and other people who are interested in personal development, deepening friendships, sustaining intimacy in couple relationships, and developing healthy child-rearing practices. It points out the value of leading a life marked by adventure and recreation, transcendent goals, and spiritual exploration, and offers fresh views on the past, present, and future of psychotherapy. American Psychological Association (APA), June,…

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Understanding Your Critical Inner Voice: A Video Presentation with Dr. Lisa Firestone

…defended, negative side of our personality that is opposed to our ongoing development. The voice consists of the negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that oppose our best interests and diminish our self-esteem. It encourages and strongly influences self-defeating and self-destructive behavior. This hostile, judgmental advisor also warns us about other people, promoting angry and cynical attitudes toward others and creating a negative, pessimi…

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Compulsive Shopping

Like most process addictions, compulsive spending and shopping serves an unconscious purpose. The purpose is typically specific to each individual and while out of one’s awareness, a yearning seeks to be filled. This is where the process of shopping and spending come into play. Assessing the behaviors, intentions, and emotions underlying compulsive spending and shopping can assist a person in seeking help for a problem that may be masked by our s…

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Paying Attention and Living Without Regret

…e of it worked because her diagnosis and treatment started too late in the development of her disease. And through it all, I never believed she would die. I just couldn’t grasp it. Death was reserved for old people. So I was the same friend I had always been – we saw each other with our husbands occasionally because we lived quite far from each other, and we talked just a little more often than that. After all, we were young. We had plenty of time…

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Sabotage You

…es? Attachment and early life experiences have a significant impact on our development and our adult relationships. Negative events in childhood shaped our minds, our emotions and our behaviors in ways that we are often unaware of, which is why in certain situations in our lives today, we have reactions that puzzle us. For example, why does that one little annoying quality in our partner provoke us more than anything else? Or why do we “lose it” w…

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7 Tips for Parent’s to Help Their Teen Create a Strong Sense of Self

…ating a sense of self. This is what play for kids is all about. Trying out roles and personalities and “testing the waters” socially, emotionally, and physically. Each person’s journey is their own, including your child’s. So what can we do to help our children/teenagers grow into adults with a strong sense of self—knowing who they are and confident about being in the world? After working with kids and teens for the past 15 years at over five scho…

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The Autistic Child and Social Isolation

…Clinician with ICDL. She has worked with children and families as a Child Development Specialist for over 25 years. Cherisse collaborates and coordinates with regional centers to maintain continuity of services and provides clinical supervision for both case supervisors and interventionists. She facilitates and develops social skills programs for VHAP and schools and provides the developmental intervention training series for VHAP staff. Cherisse…

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Taking Advantage of Summertime to Get to Know Your Child

…tive behaviors and challenge negative ones, thereby supporting the child’s development into a strong, decent and caring adult. It may be surprising to discover that the majority of traits and characteristics developed in early childhood will carry on through to adulthood. Research has shown the personality developed by age 8 (sometimes younger) remains relatively stable and unchanged throughout an individual’s lifespan. In fact, many of these pers…

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Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion

…g the “good life”: this book was created for anyone interested in personal development, deepening friendships, sustaining intimacy in couple relationships and developing healthy child-rearing practices. The book offers a compilation of therapeutic insights that are valuable in achieving a better way of living, by telling stories from a group of individuals, who used psychology to challenge a wide range of defensive behaviors and transform their li…

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