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Collaborative Communication: A Powerful Tool for Couples

…aborative communication between couples. Discuss strategies to help clients recognize and name their emotional triggers in order to lessen their reactivity toward their partner. List tools to help couples calm down and enhance emotional regulation when feeling triggered. Describe methods to repair after a rupture in communication. Once payment is received, you will be emailed a full video recording of this webinar along with all presentation mater…

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Do You or Your Partner Have an Avoidant Attachment Pattern?

…their caretakers for survival, they can safely face the pain of having had imperfect parents and stop incorporating their parent’s deficits into the fabric of their identity. Dismissive Avoidant Attachment in Adults Having grown up experiencing an avoidant attachment pattern, it is more likely for a person to go on to form a dismissive attachment pattern in their relationships with their partner and/or their child. In a romantic relationship, a pe…

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Why We Must Keep Nurturing Connection

…ting a priority rather than regarding it as unimportant or a chore. Repair Ruptures Things inevitably happen in every relationship that cause ruptures. Miscommunications with our partner, arguments with our kids, times we “lose it” with a friend, all of these things will ultimately occur, because we are human. We come to any relationship armed with a tough inner critic and a complex attachment history, so there are bound to be ways we act in momen…

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Five Tips for Maintaining Lifelong Friends

…e sure to mess up at times, but when we do, we have to set pride aside and repair the situation. Being honest isn’t about being cruel. Finding a balance where we can say what we think without being parental, defining, or judgmental is important to keeping a level of trust between you and a friend. When you make a mistake, apologize for it. Make sure they understand that your intention is not to hurt or punish them. Explain where you went wrong and…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Critical Inner Voice and Psych-Ache: VIDEO

…reatment of violent individuals. Finally, Dr. Courtois offers some optimal parenting strategies “to promote the child’s self esteem” including building resilience and repairing negative experiences so that the child feels responded to and cared about. Read More from Dr. Christine Courtois Christine A. Courtois, PhD, ABPP is a Psychologist in independent practice in Washington, DC where she is the principal of Courtois & Associates, PC. She receive…

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Society, Relationships, and Pleasure: An Interview with Dr. Carol Gilligan

…variety of topics including feminism, patriarchy, relationships, pleasure, parenting, and psychotherapy. She dispels myths regarding feminism that have pervaded both professional discourse and popular media for the past three decades, describing how “patriarchy creates a rift in the psyche, dividing everyone apart from themselves.” She discusses relationships and parenting, including the dynamics of mother-son and mother-daughter relationships. Fi…

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Personal Power by Robert Firestone, Ph.D.

…, and competence that individuals gradually acquire in the course of their development. It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one’s interpersonal world. This type of power represents a movement toward self-realization and transcendent goals in life; its primary aim is mastery of self, not others. Personal power is more an attitude or state of mind than an attempt to maneuver or control others….

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Why We Need to Teach Kids Emotional Intelligence

…s, being honest and direct about the times when we feel sad, angry or even afraid. When we mess up or act out with or around our children, instead of trying to sweep it under the rug, we should acknowledge what occurred in us and repair any emotional damage we may have caused. In taking these each of these steps, we create an environment in which our children can continually make sense of their emotions and experiences. This skill set is perhaps t…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Voice and Childhood Trauma: VIDEO

…rauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding, repetition of trauma, and the treatment of violent individuals. Finally, Dr. Courtois offers some optimal parenting strategies “to promote the child’s self esteem” including building resilience and repairing negative experiences so that the child feels responded to and cared about….

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It’s Not You It’s Me: The Truth Behind The Excuse

…and parent, can change the dynamic if either one is willing to drop their role and relate as an equal to the other. The wife can not fall apart when the husband sounds parental, and the husband can not reprimand her when she acts helpless. Breaking patterns can be as simple as asking yourself who usually makes the decisions about where to go to dinner or what movie to see, then reversing the roles of active and passive decision maker. Little chan…

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