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Siblings: Retaliation or Sadistic Pleasure

…and on parents to manage the sibling relationship is much more challenged. Parenting children who struggle with a clinical condition requires additional parenting skills. First, it is important for the parents to have a clear sense of their children’s capacity to manage their impulsivity and/or emotional reactivity. Furthermore, understanding the child’s triggers can help with minimizing the factors that provoke disturbing behavior. For example, i…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Attachment Trauma and Effects of Neglect and Abuse on Brain Development

…g all the time, the mother makes many mistakes — the key is her ability to repair, especially negative affects. So we’re now thinking that it’s the lack of repair also is very highly found now in these cases that go on to be severe psychopathologies. So ultimately, what we have here by the second year of life is a right brain that is coming out of its first maturational stage. And, incidentally, it’s not until the second year that the left hemisph…

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What Is Your Role in Your Relationship?

…nto trouble when one person takes the role of a parent, and the other, the role of a child. Breaking down this dynamic can shed light on how it may be infiltrating our relationship and diminishing our love, respect, and attraction to our partner. Here, we will explore what parental and childish behavior looks like between a couple and what we can do to change it. Many of us can relate to scenarios in which one partner is being parental; that is, b…

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The Role of Anger in Depression

…feeling sorry for ourselves, but about feeling strong and worthy and less afraid to make mistakes. Ultimately, accepting that anger plays a role in our depression should be an empowering tool in our fight to feel better. When people express anger outwards in a healthy adaptive manner, they feel less depressed. Accessing and expressing this anger isn’t a matter of acting out, being explosive, or feeling bitter toward our surroundings. In fact, it…

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VIDEO: Interview Series with Dr. Pat Love

…has learned from her years as a couples’ therapist. Shifting her focus to parenting, Dr. Love offers her perspective on how to raise emotionally healthy children. “Parenting is simply about providing love, structure and protection,” she explains, emphasizing that it is important for parents to set limits for their children but not “hover” over them. This DVD is packed with useful information for introspective individuals and mental health profess…

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The Over-Parenting Syndrome

…y dangerous world, however, it cannot be blamed for instigating helicopter parenting. The evening news and violent films act only as triggers for deep-seated fears that most of us try not to think about or suppress altogether. Yet these suppressed anxieties are strongly influencing how we relate to our children. If as parents, we were to genuinely relate to our children, if we did not connect to them in our imaginations, but rather related to them…

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The Key to Better Parenting

…hment, attunement, emotional regulation, emotional hunger versus love, and rupture and repair. In addition, it will inform therapists on how they can help parents to minimize the formation of a destructive thought process and negative self-concept in their children, referred to as the “critical inner voice.” Dr. Firestone will draw on 30 years of research as well as her own clinical experience working with parents and children to explain a compass…

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An Overview of Separation Theory

…psychoanalysis fails to deal effectively with death anxiety (the important role that death plays in life) and its impact on the future development of the individual. Existential psychology focuses on the significance of death awareness and dying on the personality, as well as other issues of being, such as autonomy, individuation, transcendent goals etc, but tends to neglect the “down and dirty” psychoanalytic concepts of defense mechanisms, compe…

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Genuine Relating in an Imperfect World

…e at mutual understandings and compromises that work. And they are able to repair effectively when they hurt one another. With realistic expectations, the not-perfect, good-enough relationship gives each member of the couple a chance to be real. Each has the opportunity to maintain their sense of self, while appreciating and supporting their partner’s unique interests and qualities. In Daring to Love, I write about the importance of preserving eac…

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The Perfect ‘Imperfect’ Relationship

…lasting relationships won’t be free of speed bumps, but when we anticipate imperfection and find healthy ways to hang in there, we can keep our passion, excitement and love alive. Perhaps even more significant than the biological side of things is the fact that most people, to varying degrees, are afraid of intimacy, even if this fear is unconscious. These fears tend to surface more and more as affections deepen and relationships get more serious….

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