…ich our children are aware. We also can’t get paralyzed by them. Enter the role of the super hero. Help your child consider the struggles they face. School, friendships, sports and other activities have all been impacted. Bruce Wayne witnessed the murder of his parents and later became Batman. Clark Kent was of a different culture, raised by adoptive parent who supported his difference. Helen Keller, deaf and blind, made great contributions. A her…
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…eir partner. They are drawn to being close and intimate, but they are also afraid and self-protective. People often resolve this conflict by moving away from love and establishing a fantasy bond with each other. They form an imaginary unit, and gradually substitute a fantasy of love for genuine affection and closeness. As with the original fantasy bond, the fantasy bond within the couple acts as a defense to ease anxiety and insecurity. However, t…
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…has learned from her years as a couples’ therapist. Shifting her focus to parenting, Dr. Love offers her perspective on how to raise emotionally healthy children. “Parenting is simply about providing love, structure and protection,” she explains, emphasizing that it is important for parents to set limits for their children but not “hover” over them. This DVD is packed with useful information for introspective individuals and mental health profess…
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…t-breath, notice a small gap, a space in time, before the in-breath occurs. 11. Repeat the process of maintaining attention on the breath as it goes out and dissolves. 12. When you find yourself lost in a thought: “What should we have for dinner?” for example, or if you feel an emotion like anger or envy, or even joy, silently, within your mind, simply label that thought, “thinking,” and bring your attention back, very gently, to the out-breath as…
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…e high. True, it can be a good thing that parents are taking a more active role in their child’s development. Remember the very first scene of “Mad Men,” in which a typical 1960s housewife scolds her child – not for the plastic bag she’s fixed around her head, but for the dry-cleaned dress the bag had contained that must be lying on the floor somewhere? While their parents and grandparents may have suffered through a culture that viewed children a…
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…ully in our lives, we will have a profound positive effect on the personal development of our children and on their future. Bruno Bettelheim said, “We need not make any claim to be perfect. But if we strive as best we can to live good lives ourselves, our children, impressed by the merits of living good lives, will one day wish to do the same.” Instead of living their own lives, many parents live through their children. Rather than offering to the…
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…trying to blame mothers or suggest that they alone contribute to a child’s development. However, my aim here is actually to spread the message that a parent’s own psychological well-being and the emotional climate they create for themselves and their children is of monumental significance to the feelings of their children. These effects last well beyond childhood. The same German study mentioned above concluded that the life satisfaction of adult…
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…ar and take on a more challenging slope. To grow, he must struggle through developmentally appropriate challenges. When adults rescue children from this experience, as in fighting for a teacher to re-grade a paper, the child may develop a false sense of confidence and be ill prepared to manage the next, more difficult situation. As skiers become more advanced, gearing up and controlling their skis become less cumbersome creating space for new chal…
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…f you have children, how do you think these experiences have affected your parenting? What do you wish for your child in the future? When your child is 25, what do you hope he or she will say are the most important things she or she learned from you? What can you learn about yourself from telling your story? You may have remembered incidents that you had forgotten. You may have had new insights. These are certainly important. But you can learn som…
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…l level, the two dimensional world of the flat screen does not support the development of communication. It is estimated that as much as 93% of communication is non-verbal, leaving only 7% to the words themselves. Consequently there is significant loss of meaning and intent when reliant on the words alone as in texting/communication via keyboard. Furthermore, with the shield of anonymity provided by a device, there can be cover for intentionally h…
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