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It’s not you, it’s me: The truth behind the excuse

…and parent, can change the dynamic if either one is willing to drop their role and relate as an equal to the other. The wife can not fall apart when the husband sounds parental, and the husband can not reprimand her when she acts helpless. Breaking patterns can be as simple as asking yourself who usually makes the decisions about where to go to dinner or what movie to see, then reversing the roles of active and passive decision maker. Little chan…

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The Psychology Behind Strained Father Son Relationships

…t wrong, and here’s why”? At that point there would seem to be no hope for repair. They could either deny their feelings about their father’s past behavior, or maintain a superficial connection to him, or they could address their own feelings and work towards a resolution. Their attempts for reconciliation may or may not reach their father, but the real psychological work entails making a concerted effort to sort out this jumbled knot of confused,…

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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino Talks About the Impact of the Secrecy that is Common Among Adolescent Girls in our Society

…o on. They felt that way. A large, a significant percentage said they were afraid to go to school– they were afraid of people at school, they were tormented and by and large didn’t tell their parents. Again, 10% said they realized they were lesbians and 90% said their parents didn’t know. So I think that is the place, because it’s very hard to prevent your child from using the internet. It’s very hard to prevent other girls from ganging up on them…

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How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships

…that bring us closer. Be willing to expose your feelings. Sometimes we are afraid to expose our feelings even to ourselves. But acknowledging and accepting our feelings is an important part of being in touch with ourselves and sharing ourselves with others. A big part of strengthening our connections involves being willing to share how feel with someone else. Say what you want. As a therapist, I’ve sat in a room with so many couples who are very g…

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“I don’t know”, “I don’t remember”, “I didn’t do it” – Opportunities to Teach Responsibility

…ely. After this is understood, appropriate apologies (interpersonal social repair) and consequences can be considered. There is another thing to keep in mind if a child has difficulty in explaining events in a clear organized manner in response to open-ended questions. Children with learning disabilities, ADHD or children on the autistic spectrum often struggle with sequencing their thoughts, word finding and perspective taking. If there are weakn…

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Finding Love: Empowering Tools to Help You Find the Relationship You Want

…of competition can lead us to avoid putting ourselves out there. We may be afraid of looking like a fool or of not being chosen. We may even have fears about winning the competition, thinking we will hurt another person’s feelings.” Going after what we want can feel intimidating, but being willing to acknowledge the competitive feelings that arise can help us avoid turning against ourselves by putting ourselves down, or even turning against others…

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7 Factors Affecting Orgasm in Women

…other and feel strange or uncomfortable when they are different from their role model.” Therefore, when a mother is held back sexually, it is very difficult for her daughter to go beyond her in terms of enjoying sexual fulfillment in her adult relationship. A woman’s guilt and fear in relation to surpassing her mother in this area are often transferred to other women in her life. Because of these feelings, women are often afraid of standing out fr…

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Preventing Teen Suicide

…don’t be afraid to ask if he or she would like to talk with you. Don’t be afraid to ask if he or she is having self-destructive thoughts. Remember that you cannot afford to keep your friend’s secret if they are at risk. You can help save a life. Resources are available that you can use to help someone you know out of a self-destructive state or a suicidal crisis. Here you can learn about the warning signs of suicide and what you can do to help sa…

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Understanding Anger

…tain amount of fear. We’re afraid of someone getting angry at us and we’re afraid when we feel angry at someone else. We are even troubled when we aren’t directly involved and are just observing two people getting angry at each other. No matter what the circumstances, anger is an unpleasant emotion and most of us would just as soon avoid it. But we can’t, because anger is one of our most inherent human emotions. According to the American Psycholog…

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Five Things You Can Do Today to Feel Closer to Your Partner

…willing to let our guard down and be vulnerable to receive love. Don’t be afraid to be daring when it comes to love. In her book, fittingly titled Daring to Love, author Tamsen Firestone wrote, “Never forget that love is not just a noun. It’s also a verb – an action. The source of your greatest power and freedom in life is your ability to choose the actions that you are going to take.” This doesn’t mean you need to fill a room with roses or plan…

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