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Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness

…us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and all in one.” In essence, we expect them to make us happy, no longer taking responsibility for our own happiness. When we get into a relationship, many of us have preconceived notions of what things are supposed to be like. Of course, we want to be with someone who is kind and attuned to us, but some of…

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Are You Leaving Parts of Your “Self” Behind?

…ives: Explain how Disruptive Self-Ownership can support the integration of identity. Discuss the impact of avoiding aspects of the self as it relates to experience of the self. Identify aspects of self-regulation to help integrate rejected aspects of self. Describe how to help a person who self-rejects tolerate addressing negative self-beliefs. Learn More Ordering Information Once payment is received, you will be emailed a full video recording of…

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…underlying a negative i… Dr. Robert Firestone on Challenging a Negative Identity Dr. Robert Firestone talks about challenging a negative identity and developing … Dr. Robert Firestone Describes Why People Develop a False Negative Identity Dr. Robert Firestone describes why people develop a false negative identity. You… How to Make Love Last a Lifetime Relationship Expert Dr. Lisa Firestone discusses how to make love last a lifetim… Real L…

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What to Look For in a Partner

…lationship is a way for two people to become one. Attempting to merge your identity with someone else is not only bad for you, but bad for the relationship. When couples fall into routine and forego their independent attraction to each other, things tend to go south. Real relating is replaced with an illusion of connection or “fantasy bond.” This sense of fusion subdues the passion in a relationship. By maintaining your individuality: enjoying sep…

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How to Go “All In” in a Relationship (Without Losing Yourself)

…ationship itself starts to deteriorate. When we give up key aspects of our identity or ask our partner to do the same, both parties feel deadened. We start to let our insecurities and defenses impede upon each other and create expectations for how the other person should act and react. Each person often stops feeling seen, and we tend to feel more disconnected from ourselves or each other. The problem with this dynamic, which my father, psychologi…

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Strategies for Discussing Race, Racial Discrimination, & Racial Trauma with Youth in 2020

…escents. Objective 2: Attendees will learn how research specific to racial identity, racial socialization, and racial trauma suggest parents, teachers, and providers talk with children and adolescents about race, discrimination, and racial trauma. Objective 3: Individuals will be able to identify a minimum of 3 specific strategies for discussing current events (e.g., death of George Floyd), race, racial discrimination, and racial trauma with youth…

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Are You Expecting Too Much from Your Partner?

…ting their autonomy and our own as well. Keeping a strong sense of our own identity in a relationship is an important component to keeping the love alive. 4. Shrinking your world When we form a fantasy bond with our partner, it becomes easier to impose certain demands on them, overstep boundaries, or be more critical. We may expect our partner to give up specific activities, or we may demand attention that takes them away from other things that ma…

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Voice Therapy: Helping Clients Overcome Their Inner Critic – Online Workshop

…goals, understand and tolerate the anxiety of challenging a negative, core identity, and embrace achievable steps for positive and meaningful change in their lives. Learning Objectives: Apply techniques to identify and challenge destructive thinking in clients. Identify and help clients address core beliefs that limit behavior change. Describe strategies to help clients tolerate anxiety associated in breaking destructive patterns. Order Now Orderi…

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Why It’s Important to Break Routines

…to think bigger. We may explore what it would mean to break out of a fixed identity or a role we impose upon ourselves. For example, if we feel pressure to be the quiet, agreeable one, we can try speaking up and suggesting more ideas. If we often feel a need to control where we pick up dinner or where we go out on a date night, letting go and seeing what happens can completely shift our experience. Small as they may seem, making these kinds of cha…

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Defense Mechanisms

…efs and directives of our inner critic would mean challenging our sense of identity and giving up the very defense mechanisms that uphold our destructive ideas about ourselves. For instance, if we grew up in an unpredictable household where we were often seen as needy and burdensome, we may grow up seeing ourselves as needing to be stubborn and in control to survive. We may have voice attacks like, “Don’t let anyone tell you what to do. They will…

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