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Are You Tricking Yourself Out of Love?

…uspicious, to keep our distance, or to depend only on ourselves. Both self-critical and self-soothing/self-protective thoughts make up the critical inner voice. While not all of these thoughts are overtly critical, they are all self-destructive and sabotage our intimate relationships. Many relationship problems stem directly from our self-attacks, making it difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. Identifying these critical inner voices and d…

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Why Layoffs Lead to New Lows in Self-Esteem

…view becomes dominant, and people find themselves under attack from their critical inner voice. “To deal with these critical thoughts, we must first begin to see them as an alien point of view, as oppose to accurate perceptions of who we really are, “ said Firestone, “People should begin to look into where and why they’ve taken on such mean attitudes toward themselves and actively respond to these attacks with a more realistic way of seeing thems…

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Letting Go of Your Inner Critic, an Unwelcome Holiday Guest

…n on our flaws. Instead, we can make an effort to loosen the reigns of our critical inner voice, to live with fewer internal limits and with more self-compassion. In January, I’ll teach the Webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.” I enjoy teaching this course at the start of the year, because I see how harshly people judge themselves in trying to achieve fresh goals or make real change. No matter where our path is taking us or what we hope to…

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Beating Addiction: The Sneaky Role of the Critical Inner Voice

…w to fully face, fight and treat an addiction, one must come to know their critical inner voice. Individuals must learn what they are telling themselves both before they engage in addictive behavior and after. Increasing their awareness of this critical voice and how it operates is an essential first step to resisting an addiction. The presentation will introduce a method for individuals to separate their real self (their true wants, goals and val…

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Fantasy Bond 101

…n peoples of different countries and ethnicities throughout the world. THE CRITICAL INNER VOICE & THE FANTASY BOND The critical inner voice is the language of the defensive process. It is a system of thoughts that undermines the self and is disparaging and hostile toward others. It reinforces the split between the idealization of the parent and the corresponding negative view of the self. It encourages behaviors that are not in a person’s best int…

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What Really Goes On in the Mind of a Narcissist?

…picious or putting down of others. So, how do narcissists experience their critical inner voice? In narcissistic individuals, the preponderance of their critical inner voices is directed at others and putting others down to make them feel better about themselves. If a co-worker gets a promotion, they may think, He’s such a phony. You could do twice the job he does. Or It isn’t fair, you deserved that more that he did. If they feel interested in da…

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The Importance of Self-Worth

…actions do not match our words, we are more vulnerable to attacks from our critical inner voice and less likely to respect ourselves. By challenging your critical inner voice and stopping comparing yourself to others, you can begin to get a feeling for your own self-worth. By pursuing activities that are meaningful to you and acting in line with your own personal beliefs, you can develop your sense of yourself as a worthwhile person in the world e…

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Is My Self-Hatred Getting in the Way of Love?

…if your old identity is that you aren’t demonstrative, you can ignore the critical inner voice telling you that you are a cold person, and you can be affectionate with your partner. Your critical inner voice will accuse you of being inauthentic. But if you ignore that voice and stay the course, you will become more comfortable with your real identity, and the attacks by your critical inner voice will subside. Another way to challenge your negativ…

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Understanding Your Critical Inner Voice: A Video Presentation with Dr. Lisa Firestone

…w to identify and overcome your Critical Inner Voice in the following video presentation. Watch Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Explain the Concept of the Critical Inner Voice   Read more about the Critical Inner Voice…

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3 Questions that Can Change the Way You Feel About Sex

…For example, for the woman I mentioned above, she wrote in response to her critical inner voice attack, “There is nothing wrong with wanting. I am not gross or desperate, and neither is my sexuality. I don’t have to be ashamed to express what I feel. It’s a positive part of who I am.” When you respond to your critical inner voices, remember to stay on your own side and keep a self-compassionate attitude. Talk to yourself like you would to a good f…

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