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How to Deal with Relationship Anxiety

…rent perceptions. While, everyone’s inner critic is different, some common critical inner voices include:   Critical Inner Voices about the Relationship People just wind up getting hurt. Relationships never work out. Voices about Your Partner Men are so insensitive, unreliable, selfish. Women are so fragile, needy, indirect. He only cares about being with his friends. Why get so excited? What’s so great about her anyway? He’s probably cheating on…

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Silencing the Troll Inside Your Head

…lves to attitudes they had toward us or themselves. These deeply engrained critical inner voices help mold our sense of identity, an identity that is false as it fails to reflect who we really are or who we would be in the absence of these attacks. When our critical inner voice is at the wheel, generating our sense of self, we can struggle to separate this nasty enemy from a more compassionate, realistic view of ourselves. We may be bent out of sh…

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Fighting the Emotional Battles of Breast Cancer

…f the way. On October 19, I will be hosting the free webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice,” as a means of helping people recognize where their critical inner voices come from and how they can counter them in their everyday lives. Women who struggle with breast cancer find themselves on an emotional roller coaster. Sometimes they may feel shut down and numb, and then there are times when they may feel flooded with myriad feelings, many of the…

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How to Tame Your Inner Critic

…steps to this process: 1: Notice this voice – People often listen to their critical inner voice without realizing it. It comes through almost as background noise, so they just accept much of its commentary as reality. It’s important to become more conscious of the moments when your critical inner voice starts nagging at you. Try to notice when its undermining insults and instructions chime in throughout the day. “You look so tired/fat/ugly/stupid….

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Why Are We So Self Critical?

…istic point of view. We can fully feel the pain of our childhood and make sense out of our stories. It is much easier to uncover who we really are and accomplish what we really want when we are aware of and combating this critical inner voice. On May 25, I will host the free Webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice” in which I will discuss the sources of self-destructive thinking and how we can identify and counter this inner critic….

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Defense Mechanisms

…elf-compassion, we can start to counter these core beliefs and conquer the critical inner voices that fuel our defense system. You can learn more about challenging your critical inner voice here. Letting Go of a Defense Mechanism Once we begin to catch on to our defense mechanisms and the critical inner voices that drive them, we can start to choose different actions that move us closer to a state of feeling and vitality. We can seek out the thing…

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Finding Love: Empowering Tools to Help You Find the Relationship You Want

…to work hard and “be responsible.” Many people feel comfortable being self-critical and listening to their critical inner voices, even though they may be mean and unfriendly; they’re familiar. Whatever this bubble may be for each of us, understanding what it is and how it operates can help us start to break out a little and challenge the defended posture that shuts other out. Seeking a Soulmate Another thing that can act as a barrier to finding lo…

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Self-Sabotaging: Why We Get in Our Own Way

…ld back or steer away from our true goals. Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice Where Self Sabotaging Thoughts Come From Our critical inner voice is formed from our early life experiences. Without realizing it, we tend to internalize attitudes that were directed toward us by parents or influential caretakers throughout our development. For example, if our parent saw us as lazy, we may grow up feeling useless or ineffective. We may…

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The Critical Inner Voice and Addiction

…eeds them a stream of self-critical and self-destructive thoughts.   This “critical inner voice” can be incredibly powerful when it comes to addiction and tends to run particularly rampant when someone is in isolation. This internal enemy fills our heads with self-doubt and self-hatred, attacking us in various areas of our lives be it our careers, our relationships, our identity, or our very sense of self-worth. Our critical inner voice preys on o…

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Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?

…ggerate any flaws in the person who loves us, and we start being picky and critical. Gender stereotypes and sexist attitudes represent an extension of the critical inner voice into a cultural framework. They focus on certain negative traits thought to be “characteristic” of men or women and promote a great deal of mistrust and cynicism between the sexes. Distorted views such as“Men are so insensitive. They don’t care about feelings, or about women…

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