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How Negative Thoughts Are Ruining Your Life

…And while one side is goal-directed and life-affirming, the other is self-critical, self-hating and, at its ultimate end, self-destructive. As a result, the most important battle you may fight is the one going on inside you – the real you versus your critical inner voice. The good news is this is a fight that you can win. As Kinderman pointed out in his study, “Whilst we can’t change a person’s family history or their life experiences, it is poss…

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Why Millennials Are So Lonely

…ing out the noise of our inner critic. It’s helpful to become aware of the critical inner voices that are keeping us from connecting or reaching out: “Just stay home. No one cares if you come out. You’ll just feel awkward.” Are these thoughts affecting our actions and hurting our confidence in ways that keeps us in our shell? The critical inner voice can also be sneaky and sound soothing, but it’s goal is always the same: to separate us and make u…

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Accepting “Good Enough” Friends and Partners

…nd those close to them. The reasons we become overly cynical, nitpicky, or critical have a lot to do with our early lives and how safe it felt then to be emotionally close to others, to be vulnerable to them. Everything from our early attachment patterns to the “critical inner voice” that formed out of experiences that hurt us in the past can start to inform how we perceive loved ones. We may try to fit them in with molds from our history, or we m…

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How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

…ecting to other people can feel daunting when we’re under the spell of our critical inner voice. That is why the first step to countering our loneliness is to befriend ourselves. We should adopt an attitude toward ourselves that we would extend to any friend experiencing the same circumstances. That means catching on to our critical inner voice and recognizing it as an external enemy rather than accepting it as our real point of view. It means res…

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Change Your Attachment Style to Have a Better Life

…formed and in what ways is it impacting our lives? We can get to know our “critical inner voice,” an internal coach that monitors this filter through which we see the world. Our critical inner voice is the language of these internal working models of relationships and our social world. It encourages us to recreate our early lives through our behavior, both by evoking responses from others and projecting our past on to people in our present lives….

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Changing the Way You See the World

…lf-destructive. The language of this internal enemy is referred to as our “critical inner voice.” This “voice” is like a running commentary in our heads criticizing, casting doubt, and often making us feel anxious, depressed, or uncertain about whatever’s going on in our lives. Just as our real self is born from positive experiences, our anti-self is shaped by negative early life experiences, i.e. the hurtful ways we were seen or treated in our fa…

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Why Do We Underestimate Our Effect on Others?

…we may think of ourselves as a burden or an intrusion. How to silence our critical inner voice One wonderful way to counter our critical inner voice is through altruism or concrete acts of being kind to others. However, the work doesn’t stop there. We must also be willing to rethink the distorted lens through which we perceive ourselves and often assume others see us. We have to challenge our critical inner voice and try instead, to see ourselves…

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Money Stress: Why We Use Money to Feel Bad About Ourselves

…’t get you anything for our anniversary. He must not really love you.” The critical inner voice will also create paranoia between a couple: “She thinks I spend too much. I better not let her know what I bought this weekend” or “Does he think I’m made of money? He can’t just expect me to support the two of us!” The critical inner voice can cloud your judgment when it comes to money, because you are no longer making choices based on real, practical…

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How to Make Your Life More Meaningful

…g yourself up for failure, and it will be so humiliating if you fail.” The critical inner voice is the language of the anti-self, the part of a person that is against his or her own self-interest. It is made up of a destructive point of view that was incorporated early in life. The anti-self is self-critical and cynical towards others, self-hating and paranoid and suspicious of others, and, at its ultimate end self-destructive and destructive to o…

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The Critical Inner Voice That Causes Depression Webinar Resources

…ing or view slides from Dr. Lisa Firestone’s December 6, 2011 Webinar “The Critical Inner Voice That Causes Depression.” To request a video recording of this Webinar, please contact [email protected] Download Slides from “The Critical Inner Voice That Causes Depression” Here Watch Dr. Robert Firestone describe the Steps in Voice Therapy: Recommended Books   See all Upcoming PsychAlive Webinars Learn about upcoming free and CE PsychAlive Webina…

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