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Empowering Yourself to Conquer an Addiction

…to act out, someone who acts as a buffer between you and the pull of your critical inner voice. Practice-self compassion. Don’t allow your critical inner voice to attack you for any mistakes or relapses. Remember that the urge to self-punish is a strong part of what draws a person to addiction, and the distressing feelings that result from a barrage of self-attacks often contribute to an increase in addictive actions to try and alleviate those pa…

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I Hate My Life

…lling ourselves about our circumstances that often makes us miserable. Our critical inner voice describes a cruel, internal enemy we all have inside us that comments on our every move and criticizes us at every turn. This critical inner voice is there to undermine and sabotage us in every area of our lives, our careers, relationships and personal goals. When we experience a setback, this voice will tear us apart and remind us that we’ll never succ…

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Three Ways to Beat Your Insecurity

…developed by my father Dr. Robert Firestone to help people challenge this critical inner voice. There are five important steps to Voice Therapy. Step 1 Vocalize or write down your self-critical thoughts in the second person. For instance, instead of writing “I’m so stupid, ugly, worthless, boring,” you would write, “You’re so stupid, ugly, worthless, boring.” This process helps to separate these vicious voice attacks from your real point of view…

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Stop Procrastinating

…against its directives. To do this, you have to resist both parts of your critical inner voice: the seductive part that lures you away from finishing tasks and the critical part that stirs up your insecurities and punishes you when you fall short. Here are some ways to combat this inner critic and stop procrastinating right away: Write down your self-critical thoughts in the second-person (as “you” statements). For example, “You’re not smart enou…

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4 Steps to Conquer Your Inner Critic

…one refers to as the critical inner voice. Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice The critical inner voice is formed out of painful early life experiences in which we witnessed or experienced hurtful attitudes toward us or those close to us. As we grow up, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. When we fail to identify and separate from this inner critic, we allow it to…

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Why Women Get ‘Catty’

…y or unnatural at first, but this exercise helps you to separate from your critical inner voice and see it as an alien and unrealistic point of view. Next, write a response to these critical statements that reflects a more realistic and compassionate attitude. These should always be written as first person “I” statements. For example, “I’m an attractive woman with many desirable qualities.” Again, do not be lured into listening to this sadistic in…

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Are You the Cause of Your Jealousy?

…is our real point of view and how much is a product of the coaching of our critical inner voice. Are these criticisms based on real events or actions? Are our unfavorable reactions disproportionate to the situation? While real rejections do hurt, long-term harm is primarily caused by how our critical inner voice continues to criticize and influence us long after the incident is over. When we listen to destructive self-coaching that fuels our insec…

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A New Way to Say Goodbye to Stress

…we are to live in the moment without worrying about the past or the future. We can then deal with everything in our lives one moment, one step, one deep breath and one thought at a time. To learn more about the critical inner voice, where it comes from and how to overcome it, join me for the webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice” this October 19 from 11 am to 12 pm PST. Learn more or register here….

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How to Fall Back in Love with Your Partner

…ion and actual provocation of one’s partner is driven by listening to the “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is an internal enemy that coaches you and puts both you and your partner down. Because its goal is to sabotage and distance you from others, it tends to be especially critical toward the people to whom you’re closest. Of course, your partner is human and has real flaws, but your critical inner voice isn’t there to help you rat…

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Leaving Your Childhood Behind to Become a Better Parent

…ood enough or react adversely to attention. All of these patterns form our critical inner voice. This voice is then there to attack us when we become parents. We may not even experience many of these self-critical thoughts until we have our own children, and feelings and memories from our past are stirred up. This is rarely a conscious process, which is why it is so important for parents to take time to identify their critical inner voice. What ar…

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