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Change Your Attachment Style to Have a Better Life

…havior? What is the language of this filter? I believe it is the “critical inner voice.” “What’s wrong with me?” is perhaps the most common question I hear patients and friends utter when pondering the mystery of their own behavior patterns. “What scares me away from getting close to someone who really loves me?” “What draws me to desperately long for that person who continually rejects me?” The answers to these questions can frequently be found i…

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Thanksgiving is Good for Your Mental Health

…ogical benefit of expressing gratitude is that it undermines the “critical inner voice” and helps to weaken it’s influence on you. And finally, gratitude helps cultivate love. Gratitude interrupts your critical inner voice The critical inner voice has a mission: to keep your defenses intact. However, these defenses that once served a purpose in childhood are no longer necessary in your adult life. In fact, they are now limiting you and inhibiting…

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Re-Moralizing Your Inner Voice Part Two

…isis, even the optimists are becoming doubtful. When one brings a critical inner voice to a table already crowded with the failures of every major societal institution, it is essential to distinguish the failures of huge external systems from personal failures. The employee with excellent work performance may, nevertheless, lose his job or a hard-working professional may not be able to make house payments. A critical inner voice will blame the sel…

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3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

…re accomplishing a major goal or enjoying a simple pleasure, our “critical inner voice” is a thought process that constantly questions, critiques and undermines our experiences. It subdues us and holds us back. It tells us we aren’t good enough or warns us that we will lose everything. It tells us that we have to be special to be worthwhile. It shouts things like, “If you’re not the best, you’re nothing.” When we receive an acknowledgment, it says…

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The Critical Inner Voice – Whiteboard Animation

…Watch this short whiteboard animation to understand the Critical Inner Voice. Discover where the inner critic comes from and how to overcome self-attacks. To learn more about how to Overcome Your Inner Critic sign up for this eCourse….

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What’s Really Keeping You Out of Your Swimsuit This Year

…bodies like getting out of the shower or going out at night. This Critical Inner Voice gives us instructions to hide our bodies. It’s the one that is telling us to leave on our tank tops at the beach. It’s the one whispering to us that, since we are flawed, we should drive ourselves beyond reason to achieve perfection or just give up on ourselves. Even though it may instruct us to exercise or diet, the same voice lures us to take it easy or have t…

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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

…ight now.” In my experience, these statements are often based on “critical inner voices,” destructive thoughts directed toward oneself and others. Most of this negative self-talk is just plain wrong and can be covering up something else — something deeper. If we want to give ourselves the best chance of finding and maintaining a rich and rewarding relationship, we have to look inside ourselves. There, we are likely to find glass walls we never kne…

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Effective Methods of Treating Depression

…ecurrent depression. Another therapy that can help to combat the “critical inner voice” that underlies depression is Voice Therapy, a cognitive/affective/ behavioral methodology developed by my father Robert Firestone, Ph.D. The five steps of Voice Therapy target a person’s inner critic or critical inner voice. This “voice” represents a vicious anti-self that is formed out of negative early life experiences. The anti-self can fuel depression, lead…

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The Voice of Addiction

In this Webinar: Understand the sneaky role of a “critical inner voice” in driving addiction Explore the roots of this inner critic and the self-destructive cycle it perpetuates Learn techniques to separate this internal enemy from one’s real point of view Follow steps to identify and challenge this destructive “voice” to live life on your own terms The mental strain of the pandemic has hit particularly hard for those who’ve dealt with addiction….

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Changing Your Sense of Identity

…k the layers, and find out who we really are? 1. Stand Up to Your Critical Inner Voice One technique for shifting this distorted self-concept is using the steps in Voice Therapy. Voice Therapy is a method developed by my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, to help people identify and act against their “critical inner voice,” a negative internal dialogue that criticizes and undermines us and others in ways that hurt and limit us in ou…

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