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It’s Not Me: It’s My OCD: Overcoming Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

…ld self, I would apologize to my sister for my outbursts and thank her for helping me. This would last until my next challenge, now bigger and scarier and closer to level 10. Still, by the end of one month, I successfully reached level 10. Ironically, at this point it was actually a little easier to do the tasks that had once scared me the most than some of the lower ranked ones I’d completed a few weeks prior. Level 10 was soon complete, and I wa…

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Becoming a Dad and Managing Stress

…d to change completely, as one shifts to new lifelong priorities and daily tasks. For new dads this can mean a new set of priorities and concerns. While many of these emotions are natural, they can become quite destructive when they lead to increased negative thinking and self-attacks. Often the pressures we put on ourselves to provide for our families or to be good parents can fuel our self-criticisms. A new dad may think things like. I don’t kno…

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The Problem with Narcissistic Parents

…r child – not for the plastic bag she’s fixed around her head, but for the dry-cleaned dress the bag had contained that must be lying on the floor somewhere? While their parents and grandparents may have suffered through a culture that viewed children as second-class citizens, the kids of today, who are being raised as the focus of their household, are not necessarily better off. How Narcissistic Parents Live Through Their Children Parents who see…

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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino talks about Raising Children in Proximity to Modern Day “Social Toxins”

…as that when the high school got bigger than about 500 students, grades 9 – 12, it crosses a threshold into bigness and the dropout rate for marginal students increases and the delinquency rate increases and the alienation increases. Well, in 1955, the average size of America’s high schools was 500. By 1975, it was 1,500. So there’s this accumulation of challenges. My kids are now grown and I’m grateful for that, in a sense. I didn’t have to have…

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The Healing Power of Gratitude

…ore gratitude makes us feel more grateful. We can engage in acts that will help us connect to our feelings of gratitude, from small gestures like looking the barista in the eye every morning as she serves us coffee or thanking a co-worker for a helpful task he performs regularly. It can mean taking time to call a friend to express our gratitude or doing something thoughtful and unexpected for our partner to make his or her day easier and to show h…

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5 Ways You’re Rejecting Love

…nships. For example, we may be falling in love with someone, then suddenly warning lights will flash on and thoughts will flood in like, “This is moving too fast. You will only get hurt. You don’t need anyone. Just step on the brakes.” As a result, we pull away from something that was making us happy. When acting on our defenses, we often convince ourselves that we don’t care that much about the relationship. We may start to avoid sweet moments, a…

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Three Principles to Raise Free and Happy Kids

…about how we live our lives and relate to people, not how we tell our children to live theirs. We must lead by example. This means asking ourselves: How do I talk to my children? Talk to my partner in front of them? How do I demonstrate empathy? Generosity? Hard work? We can create pages of rules and mountains of expectations, but our child learns more from seeing how we deal with life. We should ask ourselves, “Am I resilient and vital in how I…

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Seeking Connection by Bonnie Badenoch, Ph.D.

…the natural outcome of her busy work life, but also experienced a hollow, suicidal feeling far too often. As we began to work our way back into her implicit world, she gained a visceral sense of how the family chaos had meant that her needs were unimportant, while leading her to fear connections with the outside world. She noticed that her body “shrank up” whenever she thought about attending a social gathering. At first, it was difficult for her…

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The Simple Truth about Anger

…ssessed. In addition, they tend to be more accepting of anger in their children and more likely to encourage their child’s movement towards positive self-expression, while discouraging passive aggressive or manipulative behavior. In this way, they teach their children important lessons about anger management (e.g. when and how to express it) that are so critical in later life. For all the reasons noted above, psychotherapists work hard to help the…

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An Introduction to Mindfulness

…ealth by decreasing judgment and decreasing the amount of time we spend daydreaming about the past and the future. Over the past 30 years, the effects of mindfulness meditation have been studied by medical doctors, neuroscientists, and psychologists. It has been found to improve immune system function and may even cause structural changes in the brain. In the field of psychology, mindfulness meditation has been found to be effective in treating sy…

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