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Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness

…to put on them. If we find an imbalance in the relationship where we feel helpless without our partner or as if we can’t do certain tasks we used to do on our own anymore, that’s a sign we may be playing out a parent/child dynamic. We may start to see our partner in the service of us instead of as a whole, autonomous person. A lack of equality can diminish our attraction to our partner and undermine our strong romantic feelings. Relationships can…

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Parents: Are You Losing Your Identity During Lockdown?

…y parents find themselves having more self-critical “voices” about the new tasks they’re taking on. You’re so bad at teaching them. They won’t even listen to you. You don’t know what you’re doing. You’re failing at everything. Other people are doing it so much better than you. You can’t do this! This negative headspace we enter makes it even more difficult to reconnect to a sense of who we are and to get on a path toward feeling like ourselves. On…

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How to Stop Feeling Triggered by Your Partner

…colded by his mom, who often told him how incompetent he was at completing tasks around the house. Along with the scolding, she would instruct him about how to do things the “right” way. His father also gave him long lectures that expressed his underlying disappointment in his son. The feeling of shame being triggered by his wife’s suggestions was very similar to the way he felt as a child being disciplined and lectured to. The woman who had “voic…

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3 Principles to Keep Love Alive

…says, ignore it and continue to be loving and affectionate. Don’t let its warnings undermine your loving feelings or behavior. Don’t let it influence you to protect yourself and retreat from intimacy. You will probably feel anxious from challenging your old ways of defending yourself, but if you maintain your behavior and sweat it out, the voice attacks will subside. Your critical inner voice will become weaker and wither, and you will triumph. I…

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What It’s Like To Live With Mental Disorder

…d. It makes me hopeless, alone, scared of myself, scared of everyone else, helpless, embarrassed [and] ashamed. That’s why I have a therapist who helps me in those dark times and reminds me… it’s gonna take one day at a time, and sometimes one moment at a time to walk through this and learn to manage.” — Sarah Nowell I DON’T KNOW WHO IS THE REAL ME “Mental illness is faking a smile so others around you don’t know. It’s forcing yourself to get out…

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What You Need to Know About Disciplining Your Child

…parisons are not useful or appropriate for motivating good behavior in children. 5) Attempt to control children’s acting out of hostile, manipulative behavior Discipline is an expression of an adult’s concern for a child. An essential component of parental love is offering control and direction. Therefore, the loving parent disciplines a child because the parent cares about the kind of person the child is growing up to be. The adult’s anger is in…

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Why Going Back Home Can Leave Us Feeling Lost

…accused us of being lazy whenever he or she was feeling overwhelmed by the tasks at hand, we were likely to identify ourselves as lazy and still hear this accusation in our heads as adults. Yet, why did we take on our parent’s point of view in times of stress? As children, we relied on our parents for safety. If a parent suddenly responded with severe annoyance or harsh anger, we started to feel unsafe or traumatized. The size difference alone bet…

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6 Suggestions for Parents in the Digital Age

…fore your attention, is on your device and the message that gives your children. When thinking about making changes, invite your children into the discussion to plan how to tame the technology tiger. If you need an electronic baby sitter, consider playing family videos. The content is predictable; characters are real and supports more engagement with one’s own life, experience and relationships. If you need a quiet dinner, plan a date night. Devel…

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Does Failure Motivate Students?

…ter initial failure, because they wanted to improve their skills for those tasks. Initial success did not motivate them to repeat the task. What does this all mean? And how can we use this be used by parents, students and teachers alike? Teachers: allow your students to have creative freedom, coloring within the lines can be a suggestion, but children will lose their motivation to be creative if they are faced with limitations. I feel this also ca…

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Restoring Recess by Carol Krucoff, E-RYT

…ss, to enjoy the journey as much as reaching the destination. Goals can be helpful motivators to shape up. But once you drop a clothing size, then what? Crawl back to the couch? So instead of being caught up in reaching a certain scale weight, view taking care of your physical self–which in turn boosts your emotional self–as an opportunity for active play. This may be difficult at first, since most American adults “are inclined to judge play as ne…

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