…than 25 years, she has contributed to relationship education and personal development through her books, articles, training programs, speaking, and media appearances. Learn more at www.patlove.com. Articles Four Basic Keys to Loving There are really four things, let me just tell you, four things that every baby needs, every child needs, every adult needs. It’s just basic to homo sapiens, to the human species. We need people in our life. And we’re…
Learn More…ive thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that act as barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships and interfere with career success. This destructive thought process is what authors Robert W. Firestone, PhD. and Lisa Firestone, PhD. term the “critical inner voice.” In 25 years since Dr. Robert W.Firestone first began his investigations and case studies of the critical inner voice, he has gained profound insight into how “voices” are i…
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…imperfect parents, there is good news, something that parenting and brain development expert Daniel Siegel, MD calls “rupture and repair.” According to Siegel, ruptures are a break in the nurturing connection with a child and are inevitable. Some ruptures are more toxic than others (i.e. usually when a parent is in a state of emotional overreaction). If ruptures are not properly dealt with, this can lead to deepening problems in the parent-child…
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…age their emotions. This shift in perspective opens the door to the larger developmental goal of helping your child or teen learn how to manage the intensity of their emotions. This comes from helping your child tolerate “no” and taking turns rather than using power, control, or fear. While standards for behavior are important, the parenting question is how to help my child express sadness, fear, disappointment, or anger without becoming hostile….
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…meone get too close to us. Of course, no person (or parent) is perfect. As children, we absorb so much of how our caretakers treat us, treat themselves, and treat their partners. In trying to make sense of the world, we adopt ways of being that don’t always serve us or represent who we truly are. Getting to know what adaptations we made and what psychological defenses we harbor can transform our adult relationships. It can help explain our fears a…
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…es we formed very early in our lives. The ways we were hurt and adapted as children go on to shape how we see ourselves, our partners, and relationships in general. Although we may think we want lasting love, for many of us, a healthy and equal relationship poses a threat to the way we see ourselves and the world. Because our fear of intimacy ties so deeply to our (often painful) past, many of us fail to see it for what it is. Rather than understa…
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