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Ethical Decision-Making in Psychotherapy On Being Moral, Ethical and Professional

…mponent of ethics — virtue. Defensive medicine often takes precedence over critical thinking, soulfulness and care. The moral life is not simply a matter of rigidly following rules. The moral life is a matter of trying to determine the kind of people we should be and of attending to the development of character within ourselves and our communities. After covering the broader concerns with ethics, virtue, morality, cultural relativism, etc., the co…

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You Don’t Really Know Yourself

…ing the child’s future. In addition, children assimilate other more basic, critical attitudes about themselves derived from a less than adequate emotional climate that they experienced growing up, such as feeling that they are dirty, unlovable, unwanted, or a burden. Faced with frustration and emotional pain, they develop defense mechanisms in order to cope. These habitual ways of responding come to be identified by them as part of their core iden…

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VIDEO: Integrating Mindfulness into Psychotherapy

…erapist, you have a mindful therapy session. And then the client can learn how to be mindful just from being in the presence of their therapist. They can feel it and “soak it up,” as my mother would say. And so I think that it’s critical, it’s critical to be a mindful therapist and to have one’s own mindfulness practice. And as I said, it doesn’t have to be a formal sitting practice. It can be returning to the breath any time during the day. Sever…

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A Fine Romance: Secrets to Making Love Last a Lifetime

…better listener,” begins Melva. “There were times Jesse experienced me as critical, and I would say, ‘I’m not critical.’ But I needed to pay attention to my impact on him.” Melva says her reaction was rooted in frustration at not feeling heard, and realized that she wasn’t even listening to her husband. “I wanted him to hurry up,” she says, “so I could have my turn.” So, how have they managed to flourish for 30 years of marriage? For starters, tw…

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Relationship Compatibility

…hurt your interpersonal relationships? Do you have the tendency to be too critical? Do you try and control the course of the relationship? Do you have a tendency to defer to your partner? By identifying your own defenses and critical inner voices, you can separate the real you from those unhealthy adaptations you’ve formed from hurtful past experiences. Do you think astrology or numerology affects relationship compatibility? I don’t know very muc…

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Staying in Love While Staying Yourself

…head on. Instead, we may start to notice ourselves becoming a little more critical toward our partner or insecure in our relationship. We may feel compelled to pull on them, or we may feel pulled on by them. Whether we’re pushing or pulling, we’re creating a distance that, while probably unpleasant, is actually more familiar to us based on our personal history. We may not realize it, but we’re acting on a fear that tells us we’ll be safer if we d…

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Making Sense of Trauma

…lf with the kindness and interest you’d feel toward a friend.Be wary of a “critical inner voice” that tries to put you down or rewrite history. “Are you sure it happened like that?” it may chime in. “You’re just feeling sorry for yourself,” it may suggest. You have to stand up to this inner critic and notice its tricky tactics. Remember that you are not being weak or self-indulgent by facing painful experiences. You are not at fault or damaged in…

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Recognizing “Blindspots” in Our Self-Perception

…t. We can keep our self-perception in check by: Taking charge of our inner critical voice. Remembering to be self-compassionate. Strengthening our self-esteem. Although it’s valuable to know that others may perceive us more positively than we perceive ourselves, it’s important to realize the limitations of relying on others to stand up for ourselves. We should make an effort to recognize our good qualities as much as we acknowledge the ones that n…

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Helping Clients Stop Self-Sabotaging

…es back from taking positive risks. Learning to deal effectively with the “critical inner voice” is central to all areas of life: personal development, healthy relationships, self-esteem and career success. This Webinar provides participants with an introduction to Voice Therapy, a technique that can increase awareness of this internal dialogue, understanding its source and helping therapists assist clients in overcoming self-destructive behavior…

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The Origin of Polarization, Prejudice, and Warfare

…tecting the fantasy bond against “outsiders,” negative thought processes — critical internal voices — foster distrust and hostility toward others. Stereotypes, prejudicial attitudes, and racial biases are extensions of these fundamentally hostile and distorted views. They provide a pseudo-rational basis for aggressive acts against those people who are perceived as different. Feelings of vanity and specialness are also part of the defense system th…

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