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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Effective Suicide Prevention and Early Attachment

…y, we can now pick up, you know, these problems as they’re moving away from each other, so to speak. We can pick up dissociation very quickly. We now know the psychopathological markers. As a matter of fact, they’re now taking about maltreatment, pediatric post-traumatic stress disorder in the first year of life. We’re talking about an Access 1 Disorder in the first year of life. So, yes, the attachment literature is now indicating that early movi…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Role of Shame in Suicide

…right hemisphere again. So here we go. Ultimately, if the baby goes into a stress response, especially if it’s going into hyper-arousal and then it’s bouncing down into hypo-arousal, you’re getting a severe perturbation of the cortisol levels. A very high level of cortisol. Well, this is really problematic when the brain is setting up in a critical period because cortisol at very high levels, as we know, destroys dendrites. And so the connectivity…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Key Factors in Treating Suicidal Individuals

…a heavy emphasis with these patients and they use it even at low levels of stress — that means that in order to work with affects, we also have to work with not only the ones which are conscious and out but the ones which are under the surface. How do we pick up that beneath what looks like a calm exterior, underneath that, not too far down, so to speak, is complete disorganization and terror, which the person may themselves not be aware of ‘cause…

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The Benefits of Generosity

…ty on both our physical and mental health. Not only does generosity reduce stress, support one’s physical health, enhance one’s sense of purpose, and naturally fight depression, it is also shown to increase one’s lifespan. If a longer, less stressful and more meaningful life is not enough to inspire you to rev up your practice of generosity, consider that generosity also promotes a social connection and improves relationships. According to Jason M…

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I Hate Myself

…re react inappropriately or critically toward their children in moments of stress. Moreover, the critical feelings parents have toward themselves often come across to their children and are then internalized by the child. For example, if we had a parent who often acted like we were a nuisance, constantly quieting us or even just feeling tense in our presence, we may take on a feeling about ourselves that we are a bother. We may become overly shy o…

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How to Make Your Life More Meaningful

…that their caretakers directed or acted out toward them during moments of stress. These attitudes, along with parent’s attitudes toward themselves, which were also internalized, help formulate the inner critic. Throughout people’s lives, their moods are influenced by their critical inner voice. When you attempt to differentiate from these thoughts and live your own life based on the wants, desires and goals of your real self, the “voices” often g…

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How to Break the Cycle of Child Abuse

…en. If you learn tools to stay calm and regulate your emotions in times of stress, your children are better equipped to adopt these same strategies. 4. Take steps to build a secure attachment. Your children need limits, but they also have to know that they can trust you. If they are afraid of you, they are unlikely to feel relaxed in your presence. Kids best develop when their parents serve as a secure base from which they can venture out to explo…

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6 Rules to Live By When You Discipline Your Child

…ar on “No Drama-Discipline.” When a child is falling apart or experiencing stress and acting out, you should first connect with them on an emotional level that will get to them in that moment. Often, that means making physical contact, kneeling down to their level, perhaps putting an arm around them and looking them in the eye. Find a way to help them calm down without arguing logic or reason. Instead, take a moment to just deal with their emotion…

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5 Ways to Fight Loneliness Over the Holidays

…eople feel lonely over the holidays and 38 percent reported an increase in stress. A lot of people aren’t able to make it home to see their loved ones. Others are enclosed by herds of relatives and still feel a sense of isolation. No matter what your situation, it is NOT uncommon to feel lonely in these months. Going home can stir up emotions we’ve swept under the rug or may not even be aware of. We’re often swung back into settings where a lot of…

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Why Are We So Self Critical?

…ly, the events that have the most lasting impact are often those that felt stressful or traumatic. Parents or caretakers who lost their tempers, teachers who ridiculed us or bullies who tormented us in school can all contribute to our negative attitudes toward ourselves and our critical inner voice as adults. Even isolated moments of stress have a strong impact on children. Not only are human beings designed to react more to danger, but they also…

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