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5 Ways to Rewrite Your Breakup Story and Feel Better

…rd. We can start by doing the following: 1. Pay attention to your critical inner voice. Each person has a “critical inner voice,” a side of themselves that is turned against them and their circumstances. This “voice” frequently becomes intense after a breakup, twisting a person’s experience through a distorted filter. For example, it can put the person down with thoughts like, “She hates you. You’re worthless without her.” It can make them feel so…

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The Problem with Shopping for Relationships Online

…ake more risks while being more mindful. 4. Do NOT Listen to Your Critical Inner Voice Sadly, in direct correlation with its ability to connect us with more people, online dating also gives us the ability to disconnect. Most people who’ve dated online know what it’s like to get excited about someone, only to have them stop chatting, texting, or calling, often without any explanation. This type of indirect, insensitive behavior can set your inner c…

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Combating Destructive Thought Processes: Voice Therapy and Separation Theory

…er the insidious forces — represented by internal messages called critical inner voices – which limit humans. Firestone’s technique, grounded in clinical research, helps the client to reveal these voices quickly, recognize their source, and begin the path to a meaningful life. In addition to laying theoretical foundations, this book emphasizes the use of voice therapy in direct practice with couples, parents, and individuals and expands these theo…

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Voice Therapy: A Psychotherapeutic Approach to Self-Destructive Behavior

…patterns antithetical to the self and cynical toward others (the critical inner voice). Compelling case histories illustrate the core defense and its effect on patients’ personality and behavior. The approach is unique in that it unifies cognitive, existential, and psychoanalytic frameworks and is a comprehensive theory of resistance to any form of psychotherapeutic intervention, personal progress, or development. 1988, New York: Human Sciences P…

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The "Voice” Is a Sneaky, Tricky Thing

…st ourselves and not even know it. It’s a tricky thing. The negative inner voice in my head was not very “loud,” under the radar most of the time, I was barely aware of its presence. I thought I was handling it by ignoring the critical thoughts or by telling myself that I was in fact sick. But now I can see what a huge impact the self-criticism has had on me, and since I am out of the forest with some energy I can see how real my limitations were,…

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The Inner Voice in Child Abuse

…we provide. This film makes this pint clearly and unequivocally. It is a significant contribution to our field.” – James Garbarino, PhD, Author and Director, Family Life Development Center, Cornell University. Winner, Chris Plaque Award, Columbus Film Festival. Discussion film also available. Format: Instant Streaming or DVD Instant Streaming Rent $14.95 | Purchase $29.95 Buy Now DVD Price: $39.95 Buy Now…

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How to Become More Adult and Successful in Your Life

…ntradictions are often caused by unconscious or partly conscious “critical inner voices.” By bringing these voices into conscious awareness and recognizing how they are influencing your behavior, you can change behaviors that are dictated by the internal negative thought process and gain insight into areas of your life where you have difficulty maintaining an adult perspective. The “critical inner voice” is made up of a system of negative thoughts…

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Ep 2: Why Do We Listen to Our Inner Critic?

…vice. In this episode, we interview Dr. Lisa Firestone about this critical inner voice. We uncover where this inner critic comes from, how it manifests itself, and the many ways it impacts our daily life and relationships. And finally we’ll ask Lisa to explain the five fundamental steps we can take to overcome this inner critic, which we just can’t seem to shut up. Podcast: Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts…

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Coping With Anxiety

…s makes it a powerful tool for coping with anxiety. Identify Your Critical Inner Voice Whatever struggles or worries we have about our lives, our “critical inner voice” is always there to turn up the volume. The critical inner voice is a destructive thought process; it operates like a distorted coach inside our heads that spooks us by offering the worst case scenario, putting us down, and fueling us with poor advice. It tells us we won’t accomplis…

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How to Not Lose Track of What’s Really Important

…y work harder. What makes you think you deserve free time?” This “critical inner voice” can be harsh, judgmental, and perfectionistic. It tells us that if we don’t do this or that or get things exactly right, then we are failures: terrible parents, awful spouses, losers in our careers, and unworthy human beings, in general. We get so lost in what we should be, that we lose a sense of who we are and what we want. In addition to pressuring us, this…

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