personal growth

How to Stop Anxiety

Those of us who struggle with anxiety know how it can undermine us. We feel it impair our abilities, lower our spirits and limit the very quality of our lives. Yet, most of us have a hard time challenging our anxiety. Because of its evolutionary purpose and instant, almost instinctive intrusion, we tend to trust… Read more »

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Trust Issues: Why Is It So Hard for Some People to Trust?

It is mutual trust, even more than mutual interest that holds human associations together.                                                                           ~ H. L. Menken… Read more »

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Forgiveness: The Secret to a Healthy Relationship

Scientists who study forgiveness have long agreed that it is one of the most important contributors to a healthy relationship. Studies have shown that couples who practice forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer, more satisfying romantic relationships. Research has even found that people who practice unconditional forgiveness are more likely to enjoy longer lives. Forgiveness is such… Read more »

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Confession Is Good For the Soul: 7 Ways To Stimulate Confessional Writing

“Confession is good for the soul in the sense that a tweed coat is good for dandruff—it is a palliative rather than a remedy.” ~Peter De Vries A few years back, I presented a workshop at the West Hollywood Book Festival called “Confessional Writing.” It was very well attended; in fact, by the time we… Read more »

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The Scientific Approach to Changing Your Life

Last year, a poll indicated that only one in three Americans is reportedly “very happy.” Maybe this surprises you or maybe it doesn’t, but what it likely tells us is that the majority of the population is looking for a change. Whether it’s their job, their relationship, their city or themselves, most people have something… Read more »

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider – Awe and the Implications for Conducting Therapy

Watch an excerpt from PsychAlive’s exclusive interview with Dr. Kirk Schneider. Dr. Kirk Schneider talks about the importance of therapy and how it relates to awe. KS: I wish that every therapist who at least works in a deep way would have some of the therapeutic experiences I had, which, again, I would say, were… Read more »

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider – What is Awe?

Watch an exerpt from PsychAlive’s exclusive interview with Dr. Kirk Schneider. Dr. Kirk Schneider talks about what awe is and how its meaning has shifted through history. LF: How would you define awe? KS: Well, I define it as the humility and wonder or sense of adventure toward living. I mean, awe has been defined… Read more »

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Living Vs. Reliving

I wouldn’t belong to a club that would have me. My boyfriend must be an idiot because he thinks I’m great. When faced with an opportunity to imagine what my partner is really meaning to convey, I always assume the intention is to put me down. Each response we make to the action of another… Read more »

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Why Are People Afraid to Grow Up?

In a previous blog, “Living Life as an Authentic Adult,” I briefly described the reasons why so many people operate as children emotionally and refuse to grow up.  I discussed how, to varying degrees, individuals are restricted in their ability to function in an adult mode because of  “unresolved childhood trauma and the defenses they… Read more »

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Living Life as an Authentic Adult

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~ e.e. cummings Most people are unaware that they are conducting their lives more from a child’s frame of reference than in an adult mode. Although men and women mature physically and become more capable in their practical lives, rarely do they achieve… Read more »

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