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finding love

Finding Love: Empowering Tools to Help You Find the Relationship You Want

…of competition can lead us to avoid putting ourselves out there. We may be afraid of looking like a fool or of not being chosen. We may even have fears about winning the competition, thinking we will hurt another person’s feelings.” Going after what we want can feel intimidating, but being willing to acknowledge the competitive feelings that arise can help us avoid turning against ourselves by putting ourselves down, or even turning against others…

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Five Things You Can Do Today to Feel Closer to Your Partner

…willing to let our guard down and be vulnerable to receive love. Don’t be afraid to be daring when it comes to love. In her book, fittingly titled Daring to Love, author Tamsen Firestone wrote, “Never forget that love is not just a noun. It’s also a verb – an action. The source of your greatest power and freedom in life is your ability to choose the actions that you are going to take.” This doesn’t mean you need to fill a room with roses or plan…

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Why Trauma-Informed Care Matters in Addiction Recovery

Why Trauma-Informed Care Matters in Addiction Recovery

…e need to recognize its impact on a person’s mental health and its certain role in addiction. Often people who develop addiction don’t see themselves as trauma survivors. I want to encourage more people — therapists and families and people struggling with addiction — to see addiction recovery through a trauma-informed lens. Trauma-Informed Defined Becoming trauma-informed means learning about the impact of overwhelming, toxic stress on every part…

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Exploring anger

Exploring Anger: What It Is, What It Does, and When It’s Appropriate

…s the fuel behind many individuals’ striving for success, and has played a role in many great achievements in history. As stated by Bede Jerret, “The world needs anger. The world often continues to allow evil because it isn’t angry enough.” On the other hand, however, anger has a quintessential role in many horrific events and catastrophes. This push and pull of the benefits and consequences of anger makes it hard to determine an appropriate amoun…

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How to Not Lose the "Me" When Becoming a "We"

…ubstituted for the substance of a relationship. Don’t get caught up in the role of being in a couple and lose track of each of your unique characteristics that went into making your relationship unique. Don’t use conventional symbols of love to take the place of genuine, personal expressions of love. Don’t get into the role of being either the parent or child with each other. Don’t give up relating as the two equal adults that you actually are. Do…

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The Last Jubilee by Stan Friedman

…njoyable weekend to be shared together. To give his all for the Guest. The role of the Guest was to permit himself to be given to. A far more difficult role. The spirit of the Jubilee was to presume meaning to all things. So that when our wishes or plans were dashed, rather than to bemoan our fates and move on, we were to stop and look closer. Until MEANING emerged and fate’s plan became revealed. This is a tale from our final and greatest Jubilee…

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Prosocial gossip, stress, behavior

Have You Heard The Latest? Study Shows Gossip Is Good For You!

…en when losing money. This suggests that prosocial gossiping plays a major role in stopping the exploitation of others and preventing bad behavior. In addition, gossip plays an important role in lowering our own stresses. According to Professor Robb Willer, “ We tend to think of gossip as a bad reputation, but if you were to remove it, that would be at the cost of social order.” No wonder so much of our time is devoted to gossiping. Read the full…

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Intimacy issues, alive to intimacy, the fantasy bond, Psychalive

Staying Compatible by Staying Yourself

…stituted for the substance of a relationship. * Don’t get caught up in the role of being in a couple and lose track of each of your unique characteristics that went into making your relationship unique. * Don’t use conventional symbols of love to take the place of genuine, personal expressions of love. * Don’t get into the role of being either the parent or child with each other. Don’t give up relating as the two equal adults that you actually are…

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doomed relationships, intimacy issues, psychalive

Don’t Play the Victim Game

…nd understanding. However, the adult who is still playing the child victim role responds like the deer that sees a mountain lion approaching and instead of fleeing the danger becomes paralyzed. This person just keeps noticing over and over that the situation is unreasonable, unfair or threatening but doesn’t make the appropriate adaptive responses. In the case of the woman mentioned above, the tip off to the fact that she really preferred the chil…

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Helping Someone with an Eating Disorder? …Follow the Research

…eatments for children and adolescents, parents are given a more supportive role. If you are the parent of an adolescent or child with an eating disorder, discuss your role with the treatment team. Eating disorders take incredible persistence and strength to overcome. If you are a caregiver or supporter of someone with one of these illnesses, stay empowered to help by using research as your guide. Whether you are a partner, friend or family member,…

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