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Do You Confuse Admiration with Love? Tales of a Covert Narcissist

…pping into a polarized position, taking on the parent (Overt Narcissistic) role or the child (Covert Narcissistic) role in your relationship. Realize that every child needs to develop primary self-love and self-compassion as the prelude to developing love for other people. However, as an adult, you no longer need mirroring or acceptance from your parent in order to experience love in your life. It’s also important to be aware that there is a proce…

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VIDEO: Interview Series with Dr. Pat Love

…than 25 years, she has contributed to relationship education and personal development through her books, articles, training programs, speaking, and media appearances. Here she speaks exclusively to PsychAlive on topics of intimacy, love, parenting, and more. [SlideDeck2 id=13301] Order a DVD of Dr. Pat Love’s full interview with PsychAlive, “On Relationships and Parenting“ In this DVD, Dr. Pat Love covers a variety of topics regarding relationshi…

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A Psychological Perspective on Human Destructiveness

…either supporting a person’s ongoing, optimal sense of self and individual development or as critical or undermining it. As such, unethical actions or behaviors cause damage or pain to people or interfere with their development or fulfillment. Although human rights issues within relationships are rarely considered, they are as relevant to a person’s well-being as food, medical care, and shelter. Most people would say that they strive to behave eth…

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Clinical Supervision and Professional Development

Number of CEs Offered: 6 Cost: See AspiraCE’s Pricing Page for details Event Link: Sign Up Here Identify the central principles of clinical supervision • Become aware of the functions of clinical supervision • Improve standard of practice within your given field • Increase awareness of clinical supervision problems and resources • Increase ability to consider cultural and contextual factors • Increase awareness of legal and ethical issues within…

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Human Rights Violations in Personal Relationships

…to a condition of general unhappiness, and interferes with and stifles the development of career and vocational pursuits. Some forms of child abuse are subtle and, while hurtful, may leave no visible scars. I have defined emotional child abuse as damage to the child’s psychological development and emerging personal identity, primarily caused by parents’ or primary caretakers’ immaturity, defended lifestyle, and/or conscious or unconscious aggressi…

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How to Stop Being a Victim

…ng dynamics of this problem, I explained that many people adopt the victim role, albeit unintentionally, because they are afraid of their anger, deny its existence in themselves, project it onto other people, and anticipate aggression or harm from them. With this expectation and a high sensitivity to anger in others, they may even distort other people’s facial expressions, imagining that they have malicious intentions. The anger that they would ha…

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Fear of Abandonment

…and feelings in ways that allow them to get carried away. When people feel afraid of something like being abandoned, they tend to have a lot of mean thoughts toward themselves perpetuating this fear. Imagine if you could acknowledge these thoughts and feelings without letting them overtake you. Could you take a gentler attitude toward yourself and let these thoughts pass like clouds in the sky instead of floating off with them – without losing you…

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Learning from My Students

…ds, it is easy to play the role of being a teacher. In my experience, that role does not work when applied to children. I have learned that although I may be older, have more experience and have had more years of education, that does not grant me the privilege of being an intrinsically better person. The children I teach are just as important as I am. Their thoughts, feelings, fears and joys are just as worthwhile as mine. In that respect, we are…

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How Do I Know if I Have a Fantasy Bond?

…the woman being the caretaker. Do any of your behaviors relate more to the role of being in love than to actual loving behavior? Do any of your mate’s behaviors relate more to a role of being in love than to the actual act of being in love? Utilizing customs and conventional responses as substitutes for real closeness Society has provided us with many opportunities that we can use to strengthen the form of a relationship rather than the substance….

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Daring to Love in the Time of Coronavirus

…ften, one person takes on the role of a parent while the other assumes the role of a child. In areas where one partner is weaker or less accomplished than the other, it is tempting to lean on the other and become progressively more dependent. This type of dependency further weakens people, and they become more dysfunctional. If a partner is stronger or more capable in any way, there is a tendency to take over and assume control in the relationship…

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