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Why Are So Many Parents Limited in Loving Their Children?

…ect loving expressions of children. If the parents have been hurt in their developmental years they will have problems in accepting love and intimacy from their children. Faced with the emotional pain that it causes them, parents will unconsciously distance themselves from their child. 4. If parents have unresolved trauma in their own lives they will tend to be mis-attuned to their children, especially when their children approach periods in their…

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What Parents Need to Know About the Teenage Brain

…according to Dr. Siegel, they actually have a great deal to do with brain development. Siegel categorizes adolescence as the years between ages 12-24. The brain changes during this time period involve “pruning,” or reduction in the number of neurons and neural connections, and “myelination,” a coating around neural connections, which allows faster and more synchronization of information flow. Pruning gets rid of unused connections and myelination…

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Preserving Individuality to Strengthen Your Relationship

…portunity for personal growth. When you’re concerned in this way with your development as an individual, you can remain open to change in your intimate relationship but also retain your sense of self, your strength, and your individuality. Being honest is vital to your integrity as an individual, and necessary to the development of trust in your close relationship. It’s best to be honest even when telling the truth is hard. When you are deceptive…

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Psychological Differentiation

…their lives by interpersonal experiences that either support or damage the development of his or her personality. In order for us to live our own lives and fulfill our own destinies, we must differentiate ourselves from destructive family and societal influences. Differentiating from negative influences and identities from our past allows us to become who we truly are, rather than following a prescribed identity from either our family or our socie…

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Sexting, Technology and Relationships

The New World Order: have we gone too far with technology?

…l level, the two dimensional world of the flat screen does not support the development of communication. It is estimated that as much as 93% of communication is non-verbal, leaving only 7% to the words themselves. Consequently there is significant loss of meaning and intent when reliant on the words alone as in texting/communication via keyboard. Furthermore, with the shield of anonymity provided by a device, there can be cover for intentionally h…

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Positive Psychology & The Movies: Transformational Effects of Movies through Positive Cinema Therapy

…ination with positive psychotherapy exercises because they can support the development of courage. The capacity to love can be developed or supported by viewing movies like Kolya or Before Sunset in the context of Positive Cinema Therapy. This unique and innovative course will teach therapists how to use films effectively in combination with positive psychotherapy. Cinema Therapy, a therapeutic modality that uses clients’ experiences with movies f…

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The Difference Between Emotional Hunger and Real Love

…lves through their children has serious negative consequences on a child’s development and subsequent adjustment. By recognizing important manifestations of this core conflict within themselves, many parents in the Compassionate Child-Rearing Parent Education Program have changed responses to their offspring that were based on incorrect assumptions, and have significantly improved the quality of their family relationships. Finally, from our studie…

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The Voice (The Enemy Within)

…strongly associated with parental rejection during the earliest phases of development wherein the infant assimilates a core feeling of being dirty, bad or unlovable Basically, children internalize any hostile or negative attitudes that are directed toward them in the form of vague memories, images, and primal emotions. The self system and anti-self system As the child develops and acquires verbal skills, he/she applies negative labels and specifi…

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Exercise – Reading Between the Lines: What does your life narrative reveal about you?

…s, and they were able to show how these experiences related to their later development. They could give a coherent account of their past and how they came to be who they are as adults. In contrast, people who had challenging childhood experiences often had a life narrative that was incoherent.” What does the way that you told your life narrative reveal about you and your style of attachment? Dr. Siegel points out that even people “who are highly a…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Physiological Impact of Dissociation

…odel of psycho-pathogenesis. And that model of psycho-pathogenesis now will be critical now to the treatment model that will follow of the other side of it, etc. so we’re now looking, in my own work, I’m looking at normal development, abnormal development and that ultimately repair in the psychotherapeutic context using the same mechanisms that the right brain communicates with in the mother/infant dyad with the patient/therapist dyad….

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