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VIDEO: Dr. Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing in a Group Setting

…then they were able to go back and do those kinds of exercises with their children, with their children in the classes, and help the parents. I think, in a way, the most important application of this is in what people can do to help each other, to help themselves and help each other, in community. Like that shaman in Brazil said, “The problem in trauma is not the trauma per se, but you don’t have the holding that’s necessary to help the people mo…

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Parental Ambivalence

…oth tender, nurturing feelings and covert aggressive feelings toward their children. To be effective, any child-rearing approach must take into account this basic truth about human nature. In recalling painful events in their own childhoods that caused them distress, the parents shown in this film have come to understand the sources of their own ambivalent feelings and, at the same time, reveal angry feelings they have at times toward their childr…

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Give Yourself a Retreat: The Gift that Keeps on Giving

…s, or those personal goals of spending more time with your partner or your children? The answer is lots of reasons, and here are just a few of them: Nature helps The poet William Blake once wrote, “Great things are done when men and mountains meet. This is not done by jostling in the street.” Whether we consider ourselves tree huggers or city slickers, most of us inevitably surrender to scenes of absolute, natural beauty. Connecting to nature thro…

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Recovering from the Trauma of this Past Year

…tic abuse (including verbal, emotional, and physical abuse toward spouses, children, and family members), which has resulted in increased trauma for both the victims and the witnesses. There has been the trauma of financial insecurity and the reality or threat of losing jobs, homes, and going hungry. There has been the pressure from increased practical demands in our daily lives: working from home, caring for and educating our children, living in…

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What Love is Not: A Proven Method to Make Love Last

…le life being led by two people. Sharing activities, stories, friends, and children are all meaningful elements of a relationship. But denying the fact that every human and experience is unique is denying ourselves and our loved ones a partnership based on equality, reality, and genuine affection for one another. When we merge our identity with our partners we lose attraction to them. They become no more interesting to us than our right arm. Yet,…

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VIDEO: Dr. James Garbarino Talks About the Advantages of Predictability, Regardless of the Situation

…avior can be hard to respond to. Dr. James Garbarino: I think whether it’s children or dogs, predictability generally is an asset in people’s relationships. That people can accommodate to a lot, if at least they know it’s predictable. If you know that your mother is cranky on Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays because that’s the day X happens, or if you know that on Fridays, your father gets a bit wild because that’s when he gets his pay check, you…

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Making Love Last by Learning to Love

…ed the discrepancy between a fantasy of love and the experience of love as children, at times when our parents, who claimed to love us, acted in ways that were not always loving and, even destructive. The more we see love as an ethereal concept, the more we lose sight of the specific behaviors that make love an active expression of our feelings for others. When we see love as a product of action, however, we can look into ourselves and our relatio…

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My Parents Are Divorced Too

…s. By Melanie, Annie and Stephen Ford as told to Jan Blackstone-Ford. Finally a book about divorce from the kids’ point of view! No one is better equipped to offer personal anecdotes, emotional accounts and sound advice on what children go through when their parents get divorced than the kids who’ve experienced it. With honesty, humor and understanding, the authors of this book offer a valuable resource and coping device for children of divorced p…

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Dr. Don Meichenbaum on the Application of Stress Inoculation Treatment for Individuals Suffering from PTSD

…e in anti-social behavior on their own. If you’re going to work with these children, these young people, whether they’re in gangs or not, if you do not change their peer affiliation, if you cannot find them a guardian angel, if you can not find them an area of competence that they can connect to, so that you can increase the likelihood of them finishing high school and the like, no matter how good you are in teaching skills…it is unlikely to be su…

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Does Failure Motivate Students?

…have creative freedom, coloring within the lines can be a suggestion, but children will lose their motivation to be creative if they are faced with limitations. I feel this also can be applied to other aspects of lesson planning. Having a choice would increase motivation thus the quality of a student’s work. Also, both parents and teachers should be aware of these individual differences in motivation, and understand that continuation or discontin…

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