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Violence, youth violence, PTSD

A Gender Sensitive Approach to Violence

…ound the world. Violence Prevention: A Gender Sensitive Approach This is a critically important event. You watch the 6 o’clock news, CNN, Headline news, every one is another story of violence. We now need to address that — both on a preventative and treatment basis — and that’s what I and the Melissa Institute are committed to doing. And you need to do this in a gender-sensitive way because it turns out that treating girls is different than treati…

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How to Keep Your Marriage Close and Exciting

…at comes with having strong feelings for another person. 3. Be honest, not critical – Once we start feeling comfortable tearing our partners apart, we lose respect for them and for ourselves. Respecting a loved one means never mistreating them but being honest with them about who we are and what we feel. If a quality they have bothers us, we shouldn’t sit on it and let it seep out in cynical comments, the rolling of eyes or loss of attraction. Ins…

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Generosity Mental Health

Why Generosity is Good for YOU!

…wever, being self-centered can mean spending too much time listening to a “critical inner voice” inside our heads that critiques our every move and tells us we are failing in one or another area of our lives. Generosity distracts us from the scathing insults of this inner voice while creating quite a strong argument against it. It is difficult to prove we are worthless when we are watching someone else benefit from our actions. Generosity is a nat…

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Quiz: Are You Open with Your Partner?

…on communication hazards in couple relationships include: the surfacing of critical attitudes, harsh, insensitive statements, talking over each other, failing to listen to each other or look for truth in each other’s statements, defensiveness or unwillingness to see things from a partner’s perpective. These common pitfalls can land people in situations in which they no longer feel close to their partner and no longer can talk about why that is. Ta…

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sexual stereotypes, psychalive

Is Sexual Stereotyping Affecting Your Relationship?

…he felt this observation to be a source of security. Other times, she felt critical toward her husband, perceiving him as cold or uncaring. Then, one day, her husband got sick and needed to be taken care of. In this state, he became more expressive of his emotions. The woman found herself feeling a mixed sense of relief at his openness and anger at his perceived “weakness.” This contradiction of her reactions made her aware of how the stereotype s…

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The "Voice” Is a Sneaky, Tricky Thing

…barely aware of its presence. I thought I was handling it by ignoring the critical thoughts or by telling myself that I was in fact sick. But now I can see what a huge impact the self-criticism has had on me, and since I am out of the forest with some energy I can see how real my limitations were, like physiological shackles, and how much I unnecessarily castigated myself. While I may have turned a corner in terms of my increased energy, I’m sure…

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What’s Wrong with Needing to Be the Best

…es their parents or caretakers had toward them and toward themselves. The “critical inner voice” is a term used to describe a destructive thought process we form out of these harmful attitudes. Throughout our lives, this “voice” fuels our feelings of insecurity and a pressure to perform. We may wind up feeling like we’re never enough or as if we’re fooling the people who like and respect us. This “voice” drives our desire to achieve perfection in…

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Voice Therapy: A Psychotherapeutic Approach to Self-Destructive Behavior

…e thought patterns antithetical to the self and cynical toward others (the critical inner voice). Compelling case histories illustrate the core defense and its effect on patients’ personality and behavior. The approach is unique in that it unifies cognitive, existential, and psychoanalytic frameworks and is a comprehensive theory of resistance to any form of psychotherapeutic intervention, personal progress, or development. 1988, New York: Human S…

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Combating Destructive Thought Processes: Voice Therapy and Separation Theory

…to uncover the insidious forces — represented by internal messages called critical inner voices – which limit humans. Firestone’s technique, grounded in clinical research, helps the client to reveal these voices quickly, recognize their source, and begin the path to a meaningful life. In addition to laying theoretical foundations, this book emphasizes the use of voice therapy in direct practice with couples, parents, and individuals and expands t…

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Coping with the Economic Crisis: Story from a PsychAlive Member

…re the burden of this painful reality, it is essential not to indulge in a critical voice inside that tells us that we ourselves have lost any value. The human spirit is the one commodity that does not decline in worth. We can grow richer, and by growing richer, succeed on a level we may never have had we not known this struggle. Only with this mentality can we lift ourselves, and one another, out of this crisis and maybe even come out a little ta…

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