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Having an Allergy to a Person – Part 1

…r, but she would not let reality (presence of hostile feelings towards overcritical mother) cast an evil light upon it (the ideal image of mother-daughter relationship). So she sits and listens to her mother’s critical remarks. Consequently, she clenches her fist and keeps repeating to herself Please, God, don’t let me scream. Now, the situation is that her own mother arouses overwhelming feelings of hostility and anger that she has to smother. In…

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VIDEO: Integrating Mindfulness into Psychotherapy

…erapist, you have a mindful therapy session. And then the client can learn how to be mindful just from being in the presence of their therapist. They can feel it and “soak it up,” as my mother would say. And so I think that it’s critical, it’s critical to be a mindful therapist and to have one’s own mindfulness practice. And as I said, it doesn’t have to be a formal sitting practice. It can be returning to the breath any time during the day. Sever…

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Helping Clients Stop Self-Sabotaging

…es back from taking positive risks. Learning to deal effectively with the “critical inner voice” is central to all areas of life: personal development, healthy relationships, self-esteem and career success. This Webinar provides participants with an introduction to Voice Therapy, a technique that can increase awareness of this internal dialogue, understanding its source and helping therapists assist clients in overcoming self-destructive behavior…

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The Origin of Polarization, Prejudice, and Warfare

…tecting the fantasy bond against “outsiders,” negative thought processes — critical internal voices — foster distrust and hostility toward others. Stereotypes, prejudicial attitudes, and racial biases are extensions of these fundamentally hostile and distorted views. They provide a pseudo-rational basis for aggressive acts against those people who are perceived as different. Feelings of vanity and specialness are also part of the defense system th…

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Break the Chain: How to Live the Life YOU Want

…n creating lasting and fulfilling change. Steps include: 1. Breaking with “critical inner voices” toward self and others. 2. Altering the negative personality traits that represent an incorporation of the aversive traits of one’s parents. 3. Identifying and letting go of patterns of defense formed as an adaptation to painful events in one’s childhood. 4. Developing one’s own values, ideals, and beliefs rather than automatically accepting the belie…

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The Self Under Siege: A New Model of Differentiation

…at involves: 1. Breaking with internalized thought processes, that is, the critical, hostile attitudes toward self and others. 2. Altering the negative personality traits in oneself that represent an incorporation of the aversive traits of one’s parents. 3. Identifying and relinquishing patterns of defense formed as an adaptation to painful events in one’s childhood. 4. Developing one’s own values, ideals, and beliefs rather than automatically acc…

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Making Sense of Trauma

…lf with the kindness and interest you’d feel toward a friend.Be wary of a “critical inner voice” that tries to put you down or rewrite history. “Are you sure it happened like that?” it may chime in. “You’re just feeling sorry for yourself,” it may suggest. You have to stand up to this inner critic and notice its tricky tactics. Remember that you are not being weak or self-indulgent by facing painful experiences. You are not at fault or damaged in…

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Recognizing “Blindspots” in Our Self-Perception

…t. We can keep our self-perception in check by: Taking charge of our inner critical voice. Remembering to be self-compassionate. Strengthening our self-esteem. Although it’s valuable to know that others may perceive us more positively than we perceive ourselves, it’s important to realize the limitations of relying on others to stand up for ourselves. We should make an effort to recognize our good qualities as much as we acknowledge the ones that n…

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Staying in Love While Staying Yourself

…head on. Instead, we may start to notice ourselves becoming a little more critical toward our partner or insecure in our relationship. We may feel compelled to pull on them, or we may feel pulled on by them. Whether we’re pushing or pulling, we’re creating a distance that, while probably unpleasant, is actually more familiar to us based on our personal history. We may not realize it, but we’re acting on a fear that tells us we’ll be safer if we d…

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Stop Hating Yourself: A Method to Overcome Your Inner Critic

…and separate from this internalized enemy. They can recognize when their “critical inner voices” start to attack them and act against their mean instructions. They can learn how to side with and strengthen their real sense of self and stop living with the limitations imposed on them by their inner critic. Learning Objectives: Apply techniques to identify and challenge destructive thinking in clients Identify and help clients address core beliefs…

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