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5 Ways to Fight Loneliness Over the Holidays

…u’re such a mess. You don’t fit in anywhere. You’re just different. These “critical inner voices” make up an ongoing dialogue that reinforces the basic belief that we are not good enough. This inner critic makes us feel worthless and unlike others in some negative sense. It encourages us to be alone, then disparages us for being a loner. It contributes to our loneliness by constantly reminding us we are unworthy of the life we desire and by aliena…

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5 Most Important Relationship Resolutions

…nal enemy whose sole purpose seems to be to undermine our happiness. This “critical inner voice” can even sabotage our relationships. It’s there to warn us not to trust or to remind us to be jealous and suspicious. It can put us down, letting us know that we are too fat, thin, ugly, boring or unsuccessful to find and maintain a loving relationship. Our critical inner voice feeds on all of our negative life experiences from the day we are born to f…

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Psychological Differentiation

…dentifying these negative thought processes, which Dr. Firestone calls the critical inner voice, that are harmful or negative toward the self. Some of these thoughts may seem positive at first (either self-soothing or self-aggrandizing), while others will seem hostile, self-hating, paranoid, or suspicious. Once we become aware of these “voices,” we can develop insight into the sources of these destructive thoughts. We can develop this insight by t…

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Overcoming the Inner Enemy that Causes Depression

…in 2010. To battle depression means taking on this internalized enemy or “critical inner voice.” Learning how to identify the self-destructive thoughts of this inner critic and how to take actions in your own self interest is the beginning of challenging the roots of depression. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will address ways we can identify and deal effectively with the negative thinking that leads to the destructive spiral of depression a…

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Are You a Narcissist?: InfoGraphic

…themselves down. Like most people, narcissists have an internal coach or “critical inner voice” that evaluates their actions. Their coach speaks to them with a soothing voice, telling them how great they are, superior to others. It tells them they must always be the best, the smartest, the most attractive, etc. However, when there is any challenge to their aggrandized image, the voice may turn and tear them apart, criticizing everything about the…

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The Benefits of Generosity

…n ourselves with a negative lens. We spend too much time listening to the “critical inner voice” in our heads, which scrutinizes our every move and nags at us with negative thoughts towards ourselves and others. These negative thoughts undermine our confidence and can lead to self-sabotage. Being generous distracts us from the critical inner voice’s barrage of nasty thoughts and creates a strong argument against it as well. When we see someone els…

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Parents: Are You Losing Your Identity During Lockdown?

…guilt around not living up to expectations. Many of us walk around with a “critical inner voice” filling our heads with should’s and should not’s: You should want to be a 24-hour parent. You should spend more time helping the kids with their schoolwork. You should make sure they’re having enough fun. You shouldn’t let them be on their devices. You shouldn’t let them eat that. You shouldn’t work all night. In addition to the guilt of not living up…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Somatoform Dissociation

…pist to be able to track even low levels of massive disengagement would be critical. If you don’t track them, essentially, they’ll build in intensity and then you’re dealing with, you know, a massive situation here. So again, massive. But, what does it mean again about being able to track your own heart rate when it’s dropping, etc.? How do we pick up dissociation? So as we talked about before again, this brings the body into the work and I really…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on the Role of Shame in Suicide

…ly regulate out of it. So we’re agreed on this. I think shame dynamics are critical in the work with suicide. And incidentally, shame dynamics have also been shown to be right hemisphere again. So here we go. Ultimately, if the baby goes into a stress response, especially if it’s going into hyper-arousal and then it’s bouncing down into hypo-arousal, you’re getting a severe perturbation of the cortisol levels. A very high level of cortisol. Well,…

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VIDEO: Dr. Allan Schore on Effective Suicide Prevention and Early Attachment

…l of the sciences. So essentially, we’re looking at early, you know, early critical period – the new pieces that we’re also looking in – not only early development, but early critical period development of the brain itself. That means therefore, that abuse and neglect in the first year is much more severe (in terms of affect) than in the ninth year. I mean, if it’s in the first year when the right brain is setting up, then it’s going to alter the…

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