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The Fantasy Bond or Primary Defense

…lf-punishing component of the self-parenting process is manifested in self-critical thoughts, guilt reactions, attacks on self, and self-limiting, self-destructive actions. Resistance Once the primary defense is formed and soothing fantasy processes are in place, people are reluctant to relinquish the comfort and safety they offer. Once hurt, they are afraid to be vulnerable again. As a result, they resist intrusion into each component of the fant…

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Genuine Relating in an Imperfect World

…ey are not getting what they are entitled to. This often leads to becoming critical of the partner, focusing on and even exaggerating any of their faults and shortcomings. This kind of judgemental or mean attitude is supported by a person’s critical inner voice. The voice is a self-protective defense that can discourage intimacy by espousing a negative point of view about the person, their partner and their relationship. It attacks the person (Wha…

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Voice Therapy: Helping Clients Overcome Their Inner Critic – Online Workshop

…ve when it comes to their true wants, desires and goals, the other side is critical, coaxing, and self-destructive. Psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone refers to this internal enemy as an “anti-self. The “critical inner voice” is the language of the anti-self. This “voice” can sabotage, diminish, or undermine people in their pursuit of what matters to them. Therefore, learning to deal effectively with their inner critic is central to all…

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The Key to Healthy Communication

…r partner from playing the role of parent or child. It will interrupt your critical inner voice’s attacks on your partner. The critical inner voice operates as an internal dialogue that supports the defenses that were formed from negative experiences you had as a child. You carry it within you into your relationships. It instills a level of doubt and criticism that keeps you from feeling that you are loveable and reminds you to be suspicious of ot…

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The Destructive Ways We Self-Parent as Adults

…ttle girl.” Throughout her teen and young adult years, her mother remained critical and emotionally hungry, while her father became distant and rejecting. She felt lost and like she needed to be adorable/ adored in her adult relationships in order to get back the positive reenforcement she had felt from her dad. At the same time, she was incredibly critical of herself and her looks much like her mother had been. Living out her parents’ prescriptio…

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The Fantasy Bond & Societal Violence Fred Branfman interviews Dr. Robert Firestone about the fantasy bond and societa… What is a Fantasy Bond? Author Tamsen Firestone describes how fantasy bonds can form early in life and g… Experts at Home – Robert Neimeyer on Coping with Grief In this Experts at Home conversation, Dr. Robert Neimeyer joins Dr. Lisa Firesto… Experts at Home: Dr. Katayune Kaeni on the Mental Health of New Parents For people…

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The Secret to Success? How You Can Become More Hardy

…e aren’t strong enough or that we’ll never succeed. This voice can be self-critical feeding us thoughts like, “You can’t handle this stress. You just don’t have what it takes. You will never amount to anything. Quit dreaming already.” The inner coach can also seem self-soothing, tricking us with thoughts like, “Just take it easy; you don’t have to try this hard. “Watch another episode of that show you like. Going out will just get you down.” In bo…

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Forgiveness: The Secret to a Healthy Relationship

…ur head that get especially loud when it comes to our relationships. This “critical inner voice” is full of bad advice that interferes with our happiness and tends to criticize us (or our partner) at every turn. It may tell us not to invest in or trust our partner. It may advise us to protect ourselves by not getting too close or to seek revenge when our partner messes up. Once again, these actions are rarely in our own best interest and will only…

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Advantages of Dating After 40

…must be acknowledged and challenged whenever they arise. Don’t succumb to critical inner voices about yourself or the people who might make you happy. Don’t be quick to put yourself down or pick your partner apart. Instead, take chances and tune in to how you feel in your heart, instead of tuning in to the running analysis in your head. The online dating world in particular opens up the doorway to meet new people; however, be careful to avoid the…

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