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Cynical About Relationships: Is Cynicism Ruining Your Love Life?

…what my father Dr. Robert Firestone calls our “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice describes a negative thought process we all experience to different degrees that harshly criticizes us and others. For many of us, this voice gets loudest when it comes to our romantic life. Our critical inner voices can act as a barrier to getting close to someone else. Like the world’s worst matchmaker, it tends to feed us a steady stream of awful com…

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6 Things You Should Know About Depression

…You aren’t capable of being happy. You will never succeed at anything. The critical inner voice may then persuade you to act in destructive ways: Just be by yourself; no one wants to see you. Have another piece of cake; it will make you feel better. You shouldn’t even try for that job; you’ll never get it. Finally, once you’ve listened to its directives, the critical inner voice will attack you for your actions: You are such a loser, staying home…

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How to Deal with Rejection

How to Deal with Rejection

…t better able to move on when we’re on our own side. That means making our critical inner voice are number one enemy. Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have outlined specific steps we can take to identify these voices, make sense of them, separate from them, and challenge them on an action level. Taking this practice seriously can really help us stay in a healthy and realistic mind frame when recovering from a break up. Read about the steps to chall…

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4 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

…g these same characteristics in adulthood. Watch a Whiteboard Video on The Critical Inner Voice 2. Comfort: The critical inner voice likes to keep us in a box, pigeon-holed by an identity that was assigned to us and not necessarily one we earned. For this reason, it can be tricky and can flood us with thoughts that are seemingly self-soothing. It’s easier to recognize an internal enemy when it’s yelling at you that you’re stupid, ugly or a failure…

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How I Came to Write a Book

…I didn’t show what I was writing to anyone. Just because I was ignoring my critical inner voice doesn’t mean I wasn’t hearing it. But I kept writing. When I finished all of the chapters, I mustered up my courage and, in spite of the critical inner voice advising strongly against it, I read them aloud to a group of family and friends during a summer vacation. They were enthusiastic and supportive and also offered useful feedback. Bob generously edi…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Critical Inner Voice and Psych-Ache: VIDEO

Dr. Christine Courtois talks about the critical inner voice and its effect on a person’s capacity for self-compassion. The following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC The whole issue of self-esteem and self-blame I find is so deeply embedded that it just takes a lot to be able to get there. You mentioned self-compassion. And a lot of the patients that I work with – they can’t…

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How to Reduce Self-Criticism and Make Real Change

…terrible advice. Learn more about the steps you can take to challenge your critical inner voice or join Dr. Lisa Firestone for the CE Webinar “Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice.” Embrace self-compassion Luckily, there is a much more favorable attitude to adopt toward ourselves that can act as an anti-dote to our “critical inner voice.” That is one of self-compassion. Research has proven that self-compassion training is effective in reducing self-c…

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5 Ways to Beat the Winter Blues

…ng on him. The mere thought of facing their judgment left him full of self-critical thoughts that her parents would think he was a “nobody” and wasn’t good enough for their daughter. He realized that ever since he was little, meeting new people always set off his critical inner voice. By catching onto this pattern, he was able to relax a little and stand up to these negative thoughts. 4) Choose Your “Family Time” – Family time may sound relaxing a…

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Student Stress, Pressure and Self-Attacks: Interview with Dr. Daniel Zamir

…sary not to burn out and just become overwhelmed. Students Challenging the Critical Inner Voice The following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with the Editor of PsychAlive and Dr. Daniel Zamir. Dr. Daniel Zamir: I see that in social relationships as well, that people are very self-critical. A lot of people come in who have types of social anxiety and there especially, there is so much self-criticism around, you know, “People are…

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How the Critical Inner Voice Affects Relationships

…Watch an exclusive PsychAlive cartoon, illustrating the concept of the “critical inner voice” and how it can negatively impact your romantic relationships. Learn more about the critical inner voice…

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