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How to Stop Binge Eating: 6 Keys to Freedom

…labels of foods as good or bad. How does this natural, biologically-driven relationship with food turn into a battle for so many adults and, for millions of people, turn into a cycle of binge eating? Most importantly, what are the keys to freedom with food? Binge eating is characterized by eating much more quickly than is typical, eating until uncomfortably full, feeling guilty or disgusted after the overeating, often eating alone to reduce embarr…

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The Inner Voice in Self-Destructive Behavior and Suicide

…ses. To summarize, I have developed the following hypotheses regarding the relationship between the voice process and self-destructive behavior and suicide: (1) A conflict exists within each individual between life-affirming propensities to actively pursue goals in the real world, and self-denying, self-protective, self-destructive tendencies. (2) Thoughts antithetical to the self vary along a continuum of intensity from mild self-reproach to stro…

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Being Alone: The Pros and Cons of Time Alone

…ocial isolation, or the discrepancy between what you want from your social relationships and your perception of those relationships.” In this sense, loneliness is not defined by the amount of time we spend alone, but rather by how we feel about the time we spend alone. Feeling lonely can trigger feelings of being unloved or unlikeable, which can lead us to turn on ourselves. Feeling lonely is actually painful on a physical level, as well as emotio…

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The Effects of Honesty, Empathy, and Higher Order Thinking on Moral Development

…on reaching justice where as girls learn to be concerned with maintaining relationships, even to the point of self-sacrifice. Regardless of gender, children should feel their thoughts and emotions are protected by adults, otherwise they will start experiencing fear at a young age. The fear constructs a wall within the child causing a toxic situation where they turn to themselves or to their peers to fill the void. So how do we prepare our childre…

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Losing Kobe: Why We Experience Grief and Sadness for People We’ve Never Met

…ctedness we have to public figures we’ve never met is called a “parasocial relationship.” Loss of any kind is hard. And although the psychological effects can be the same, there are no social supports for “parasocial grieving.” In fact, we can be met with ridicule for ‘feeling something for someone we don’t even know’. If you find yourself experiencing this type of grief, just know:⠀⠀ You’re not delusional – focus on the meaning that this person b…

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Want to Improve Your Body Image? Try this…it’s not what you think

…ew study shows that emotion regulation may be a mechanism of change in the relationship between self-compassion and mental health. (3) Self-compassion seems to reduce the tendency to avoid negative emotions and therefore increases your potential for better emotion regulation. Beyond reducing self-criticism, self-compassion is independently central to reducing stress, depression, overeating, under-eating AND it seems to buffer against negative body…

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How to Overcome Insecurity: Why Am I So Insecure?

…are you ever going to get a real job? No one would hire you. Insecurity in Relationships Whether we are single, dating or in a serious, long-term relationship, there are many ways our critical inner voice can creep in to our romantic lives. Relationships, in particular, can stir up past hurts and experiences. They can awaken insecurities we’ve long buried and bring up emotions we don’t expect. Moreover, many of us harbor unconscious fears of intim…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Complex Trauma and Cognitive Distortion: VIDEO

…day child.” And it was only when she was in the safety of her own marital relationship with a safe man that the defenses started to crumble and what she was up against was extreme body pain and extreme body tightening. And today we are hearing about freezing and conversion symptoms and it’s very much her lead into understanding what happened to her was the body work that she needed to do to unfreeze. Order the Full DVD Interview: Attachment, Trau…

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A Traumatized Nation

…Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.” Trauma need not come from direct experience with an event. Trauma may occur from hearing of a significant incident, such as this recent tragedy. Vicarious trauma, an indirect exposure to trauma, occurs when a listener hears of an incident lived through by another person or group of individuals. It is during…

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You Don’t Want What You Say You Want

…riticize their lover, provoking hostile interactions and alienation in the relationship. Self-defeating reactions to being loved, such as holding back one’s positive qualities and responses, inevitably lead to dishonest communication and double messages within the relationship. A partner may hold back, while still proclaiming love for the other, but his or her actions fail to match his or her words. In Stop! You’re Driving Me Crazy, George Bach an…

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