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Five Tips for Maintaining Lifelong Friends

…tips for keeping your friendships strong throughout the years. Be Honest – Relationships built on false build-ups or phony facades are only as good as their foundation. Superficial relationships often fizzle over time. To achieve a solid friendship, you have to be honest with each other. Being able to offer and receive feedback from someone you trust is a gift that can easily be overlooked. Setting aside your ego and being willing to let someone k…

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Cultural Stereotypes of Men and Women

…about it for a minute, if you don’t have a self or a voice, you’re not in relationships, so you can’t have a relationship if you don’t have a way to express yourself, basically, because otherwise who is in the relationship? And it was wonderful hearing girls say that basically, I mean, it’s so obvious that they know it and then they… Or, if you say men have a self but they don’t have relationships then you read, for example, the dedications of th…

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How to Stop Being a Victim

…stify their anger, words like “fair,” “should,” “right,” and “wrong.” In a relationship, the term “should” often implies obligation. For example, someone who says, “Because we’re together (married), my partner ‘should’ love me, ‘should’ take care of me, ‘should’ make love to me” is operating from a victimized position. When people tie their feelings of frustration to the expectation that someone is obliged to satisfy them, victimized, paranoid fee…

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider on Developing Awe in Existential Psychotherapy

…imes that leads to re-discovery of something very meaningful, like maybe a relationship that they feel that they need to revive or an interest in a job, interest in some project, more of kind of a specific goal. But I believe in the best circumstances, it goes beyond that. Maybe you could even say beyond meaning in a kind of conventional definition of meaning, which is more categorical. But this is about being able to experience a sense of freedom…

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Dr. Kirk Schneider on Romantic Awe

…notable. We were both scared. LF: I think it’s scary to be vulnerable to a relationship. It’s going to raise anxiety, again. KS: There’s anxiety, yet opening. The prison becomes an opening, potentially. LF: Yeah. And I’ve seen recent studies showing that appreciating, if you appreciate your partner, that relationships are much more likely to last. KS: That, too. Absolutely. Little things, calling her Love, her calling me Love, in letters or little…

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How to Cope with an Allergy to a Person – Part 2

…stimulate them. In fact, we ourselves are the dynamic factor in any social relationship. We give directions to our relations with other people in a subtle way by our own attitude and behavior. Unfortunately, in everyday life, some people arouse our resentment, opposition or hostility without any apparent reason. At times, they may only distract us or deflate our ego or humiliate us or embarrass us or thwart us or disappoint us or disillusion us. S…

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How to Treat an Allergy to a Person

…love — may lead to anxiety and nervousness. Due to the intimate mind-body relationship, nervousness spreads waves of inhibition over our forebrain and thus, paralyses our best creative abilities. Just stop and think for a moment. Ask yourself whether your aggressive reaction is worth the defense. After you have done this, you react to your hostility, not by the repression, but by the judicious choice of the ABC method. Every situation is differen…

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The Role of Anger in Depression

…d to counteract these negative thoughts, there was no longer a significant relationship between irrational beliefs and depression. This same study showed that it is “especially the self-kindness component of self-compassion that moderated the irrational belief-depression relationship.” Thus, the primary aim for someone struggling with resolving their emotions around depression is to treat themselves and regard their feelings the way they would a f…

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Breaking Bad Habits: The Neuroscience and Psychology of Personal Transformation

…onger addictive behaviors is understanding their habits and changing their relationship to them. In this 90-minute online workshop, Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D., will explore the neuroscience and psychology behind why people do the things they do that keep them stuck. Participants will be shown how to identify cues that trigger a subconscious habit loop and present specific mindful methods to help individuals break free from bad habits. Everyone can le…

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3 Principles to Keep Love Alive

…ice that encourages them interfere with your being able to establish close relationships. You are your most vulnerable when you express your romantic feelings, when you articulate what you love about your partner and show how you feel toward him or her. You are also vulnerable when you are open and receptive to your partner’s loving feelings toward you. Being vulnerable and defenseless to this degree goes against your habitual ways of protecting y…

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