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True Love: What Love Is and What It Is Not

…acteristics that in more than 30 years of studying couples, Dr. Robert and Lisa Firestone found to be vital to maintaining truly loving. The father and daughter research team created what they call the “Couples Interactions Chart,” which compares the characteristics of an ideal relationship to those of what Dr. Robert Firestone termed a “fantasy bond.” The fantasy bond is an “illusion of connection and closeness [that allows couples] to maintain a…

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The Voice of Addiction

…g them toward risky and self-destructive behavior. In this CE webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will explain the concept of the critical inner voice and how it pushes people toward addictive behavior. The role of this “voice” in addiction is incredibly powerful in that first lures them into self-destructive behavior with seductive or even soothing-sounding messages but then punishes them for indulging. Increasing awareness of this critical voice and how…

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…out this online course here: http://ecourse.psychalive.org/making-s… Dr. Lisa Firestone‘s Advice to Couples Relationship expert Dr. Lisa Firestone shares the one piece of advice that she g… Dr. Peter Fonagy on Therapy for Violent Men Dr. Peter Fonagy describes an effective therapy approach for working with viole… Dr. Peter Fonagy on Domestic Violence and the Cycle of Abuse Dr. Peter Fonagy Explains How Social Inequality Contributes to V…

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The Key to Healthy Relationships: It’s All in Your Head

…, observational, and objective, a person must become aware of the Critical Inner Voice. The term ‘Critical Inner Voice’ describes an internalized enemy, shaped from early life experiences. If we grew up feeling neglected, our “voices” might tell us we are worthless. If we grew up feeling criticized, our “voices” may tell us we are deficient. Voice Therapy is a technique developed by Dr. Robert Firestone that encourages people to identify and comba…

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How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships

…er dialogue that personifies these psychological defenses as our “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is a destructive thought process that acts like an internal parent and tends to assess, judge, undermine, and insult us as we move through our lives. “Don’t show her who you really are. She’d want nothing to do with you,” it warns. “You’re going to make a fool of yourself. Don’t put yourself out there,” it beckons. This “voice” reinfor…

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Critical Inner Voice and Intimacy

…Critical Inner Voice and Intimacy Resources…

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3 Principles to Keep Love Alive

…but you also recognize and value your differences. 3. Ignore your critical inner voice To varying degrees, we all have an enemy within, a part of ourselves that operates inside our heads much like a malicious coach, criticizing us and offering up bad advice. This enemy, with its destructive point of view, is your critical inner voice. It supports your defenses, which wouldn’t be a bad thing except that, for the most part, your defenses are archaic…

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Kindness Wins!

…that easy. Why is that and how can we be kinder? Be aware of your critical inner voice We are all aware of having mixed feelings toward ourselves and, at times, of being self-critical. Our mixed feelings and self-criticisms represent a split within us between forces that support and oppose our actual self. For the most part, we’re unaware of this split and of its destructive impact on our lives. To varying degrees, we all have an enemy within, a p…

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Anxious Attachment: Understanding Insecure Anxious Attachment

…ny of these parents and caregivers, due to the unreliable and inconsistent parenting they received, experience powerful feelings of emotional hunger toward their child. They act in ways that are insensitive and intrusive when they confuse emotional hunger with genuine love for their child. In Compassionate Child-Rearing, Robert Firestone describes how parents mistake their feelings of longing and the desire to get love from their child for actual…

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How to Stop Fighting and Feel Close Again

…e to challenge our critical inner voice. Drop your half of the dynamic Dr. Lisa Firestone, co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships recommends what she calls “unilateral disarmament” as a tool couples can use to defuse arguments and be close again. “What it involves is momentarily dropping your side of the debate and approaching your partner from a more loving stance,” explained Firestone. “The idea is that when couples have tension bet…

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