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Identity, Sexuality, and Society’s Assault on the Self: A Commentary on John Irving’s Novel, In One Person

…so much about “deviant” sexuality, — bi-sexuals, gays, lesbians, and transgender men and women. What strikes me is that they don’t take issue with Irving’s characters who never or rarely have sex, for example Garp’s mother, Jenny, in The World According to Garp and Dr. Larch in The Cider House Rules. What does this say about our society? Is the asexual or nonsexual person the new norm? On another level, Irving’s novel exposes a common human faili…

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The Self Under Siege

…iduation and self-realization, and serves as the core resistance to psychotherapy and a more happy and harmonious life. Learn more about Dr. Robert Firestone’s book The Self Under Siege…

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Why Are People Afraid to Grow Up?

…re to developing a mature approach to life and move toward a more satisfying and freer existence. This subject will be addressed in my next blog. Learn about Dr. Robert Firestone’s book The Self under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation…

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The Fantasy Bond or Primary Defense

…nourishing and self-punishing components of the fantasy bond. Read more in Dr. Robert Firestone’s new book: The Enemy Within: Separation Theory and Voice Therapy References Jacobson (2009). Considering Interactions between Genes, Environment, Biology, and Social Context. Psychological Science Agenda. Siegel, D. & Hartzell, M. (2003). Parenting from the Inside Out. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher Silverman, L. & Weinberger, J. (1985). Mommy and I Are O…

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Why Are So Many Parents Limited in Loving Their Children?

…d-rearing practices in a more loving, positive direction.   Join the eCourse on “Compassionate Parenting” featuring work by Dr. Robert Firestone….

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Why Are We Hooked on Rejection?

…want to be with us romantically? My father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, recently commented, “It’s amazing how people will suck the marrow out of rejection.” While most of us like to think that all we want is true love, the reality is, many of us are addicted to rejection. Rejection validates the negative point of view of what my father calls a “critical inner voice.” This “voice” represents an internal enemy shaped out of negative ev…

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Where the Rubber Meets the Road

…l, I attended a psychology conference in New York City and stumbled across Dr. Robert Firestone’s book, The Fantasy Bond. In spite of the fact I had stacks of assigned reading, this was the book I couldn’t put down. It enlightened me in ways none of my professors could, answering theoretical questions roaming around in my freshly primed mind. Most importantly, it made sense, not just theoretically, but personally. And this really is the crux of th…

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What Goes On in the Mind of Your Therapist?

…not necessarily being seen for who he or she really is. This can leave children confused about who they really are and cause them to struggle in forging their own unique identity. Throughout childhood, a person develops psychological defenses to cope with their specific circumstances. These defenses may work to protect them as children, but they often go on to limit or hurt them as adults. Think about the little girl who stays quiet in her househo…

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How Do I Know if I Have a Fantasy Bond?

…experiences, the repeating of past patterns and a fear of being alone can drive people to a fantasy bond. As children, one of the primary ways that we adapted during those times when we were hurting or lonely was to form an imagination that we were loved. In a sense, we fantasized that we were with someone who loved us and would never leave us. This adaptation, the fantasy bond, happens at such an early age that it is basically an unconscious pro…

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How Over-Parenting Hurts Your Children… and You

…On his Psychology Today blog, on the subject of Emotional Hunger Vs. Love, Dr. Robert Firestone explains, Many parents overstep the personal boundaries of their children in various ways: by inappropriately touching them, going through their belongings, reading their mail, and requiring them to perform for friends and relatives. This type of parental intrusiveness seriously limits a child’s’ personal freedom and autonomy. Many mothers and fathers s…

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