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Dr. Christine Courtois on Complex Trauma and Cognitive Distortion: VIDEO

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC I mean, I think that’s one of the fascinating things about this whole idea of complex trauma as well is — in one of the criteria subsumed — in one of the criteria is minimization. And that’s a cognitive distortion. And that you hear these stories and it’s curling your hair to hear the story and then the person says, “Aw, it wasn’t so…

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Dr. Sheldon Solomon on Small But Forceful Agents of Change: Exclusive Interview

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon. Sheldon Solomon talks about the power of individual kindnesses. SS: I often say to the students, in part, because I need to hear it myself, is, “You know, how many of you know the names of the people on either side?” Because in my day, you would know the names of everybody in the, in your neighborhood. And, what would happen if every day y…

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Dr. Sheldon Solomon on Terror Management Theory and Moral Courage: Exclusive Interview

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon. Sheldon Solomon talks about Terror Management Theory as it relates to moral courage. SS: The term moral courage I got actually from taking my kids to see the movie Little Women, when it was used in reference to the transcendentalists. And I’ve always found it – I like the term and I didn’t realize because I’m ignorant I didn’t realize it a…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Critical Inner Voice and Psych-Ache: VIDEO

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC The whole issue of self-esteem and self-blame I find is so deeply embedded that it just takes a lot to be able to get there. You mentioned self-compassion. And a lot of the patients that I work with – they can’t get there. You say “compassion” and they’re sneeringly contemptuous of , “How can I be compassionate towards me?” And they’…

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Becoming Your Real Self: Shedding the Baggage of Your Past

…to be? How do we become our real self? My father, psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone, and I explain the steps in the process of differentiation in our new book, The Self Under Siege, which we wrote in collaboration with Joyce Catlett. Watch this Whiteboard Video on Differentiation The first step in the process is to identify the “critical inner voices” you experience about yourself, others, and the world around you. This critical internal commenta…

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Fighting Post-Graduation Anxiety

…tress has both physical and mental negative effects. According to Dr. Lisa Firestone, “Anxiety can be a serious psychological condition that limits us in our interactions, our development, and our general state of mind.” By giving in to stress and anxiety, you stop behaving your best. You start doubting yourself and become self-limiting. You give in to your critical inner voice, the self-destructive thought process that creates nagging thoughts an…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Voice and Childhood Trauma: VIDEO

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC I have worked my whole career with adult survivors of incest and child sexual abuse or other forms of childhood trauma. And many of them have very deeply internalized voices and shadows, I guess, of their experiences that really affect them over their whole life. And I’ve been working with folks who have been suicidal at different po…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Incest: VIDEO

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC In my book revision for Healing the Incest Wound, I just wrote about the fact that I think that we don’t look enough at what families do to family members. And we always assume that – it’s much easier to assume that it’s stranger danger or it’s somebody outside the family grouping. And yet the data are very, very categorical that the…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on the Concept of The Voice

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Christine Courtois. CC I think in the field of trauma that the idea of voice and internalized voice is very important and it’s had different terminology. Certainly “identification with the aggressor” being one of them in more analytic terms. But this is a term, you know, it reminded me of Milton Erikson in a sense – my voice goes with you. And that I know…

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Helping Parents Distinguish Love from Emotional Hunger

…needs than those of our children. My father psychologist and author Robert Firestone often talks about the concept of emotional hunger versus love. In a book co-authored by my father and myself, The Self Under Siege, we describe emotional hunger as follows: Emotional hunger may be expressed in anxious over-concern, over-protection, living vicariously through one’s child, or an intense focus on appearances. Parents who behave in this manner exert a…

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