Dr. Sheldon Solomon on Small But Forceful Agents of Change: Exclusive Interview
The following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. Sheldon Solomon.
Sheldon Solomon talks about the power of individual kindnesses.
SS: I often say to the students, in part, because I need to hear it myself, is, “You know, how many of you know the names of the people on either side?” Because in my day, you would know the names of everybody in the, in your neighborhood. And, what would happen if every day you took five minutes and you asked the person on your left and your right, “Is everything OK?” And if it wasn’t, like, “Oh no, I need to go to the drug store.” Or just something like that. Because a lot of things are easily rectifiable even if they’re difficult. And, you know, as again, maybe as naïve as it sounds, would not the world get a lot better in five minutes if everyone did that? So I don’t see that, I guess, as any less important, just the little things. In fact, I find sometimes just like looking up and saying hello to somebody goes a long way. And, so maybe it’s not always about winning a Nobel Peace Prize. Maybe it’s just paying attention and giving somebody a hello that could make a lot of strategic difference.
We could be ambassadors of good will and I think there are regional differences here because I’ll never forget my first day at the University of Kansas. I grew up in New Jersey and New York and, whereas, you know, the pace is fast, people can be curt at times. And I got to Kansas and everybody on the street was, “Hi! How are you doing?” And my original reaction is, “Stop persecuting me! What do you want?” And it took me a while to realize that what they wanted was nothing. And, so I think we can spread around some of that kind of mentality also. Never felt stilted or obsequious. It was just a genuine, “How are you doing?”
I bought a newspaper this morning and the young woman who sold me the paper was, you know, it’s not a big deal, but for 30 seconds, she was like, “How’s it going?” I bought a New York Times, so she was like, “Are you from out of town?” And, “Yes. I’ll be working for the next 60 years given the stock market’s collapse.” And she thought that was funny. But it is noticeable.
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In this DVD, Dr. Sheldon Solomon addresses a variety of topics concerning how human beings can create meaningful lives in the face of death. In a lively and candid style, Dr. Solomon discusses the development of Terror Management Theory, the ways in which people form defenses against death anxiety and the concept of life affirming death awareness, arguing that we can “accept the reality of the human condition and parlay that into bringing out the best in us. ” He also addresses the societal effects of death awareness, including the social nature of human beings, the role of education and government, and the elements that make up an ideal society. Ultimately, Dr. Solomon advocates that people treat one another humanely and with a greater emphasis on compassion.
Dr. Sheldon Solomon is a psychologist and the Ross Professor for Interdisciplinary Studies at Skidmore College. He is best known for developing Terror Management Theory, along with Jeff Greenberg and Tom Pyszczynski, which is concerned with how humans deal with their own sense of mortality. Dr. Solomon is the author or co-author of more than 100 articles and several books, including In the Wake of 9-11: The Psychology of Terror. He’s been featured in several films and TV documentaries as well as countless radio interviews.