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Overcoming Relationship Anxiety

…nd how it affects anxiety about relationships Understand how our “critical inner voice” perpetuates anxiety and insecurity Discuss valuable tools to help people cope with anxiety in their relationships While the idea of falling in love can sound blissful, relationships almost always challenge us in ways we don’t expect. Anxiety can arise at various points in a relationship from the moment we first start dating to when we decide to make a symbolic…

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The Wait for the Acceptance Letter: Helping Teens Cope with Stress

…e involving evaluation. There are many self-critical thoughts or “critical inner voices” that get triggered in graduating teens. Common critical inner voices I’ve heard from high school seniors have included: You’re not going to get accepted anywhere. Why haven’t you heard from that school yet? You don’t have a chance. How can you tell your friends/parents/teachers that you didn’t get in? You’re so stupid. They’re so much smarter than you. What’s…

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An Overview of Separation Theory

…erson’s ability to function effectively becomes seriously compromised. The Voice The voice is a well-integrated pattern of negative thoughts that supports the fantasy bond and is at the core of an individual’s maladaptive behavior. It is not an actual hallucination, but rather, an identifiable system of critical and destructive thoughts. It is an overlay on the personality that is not natural or harmonious, but learned or imposed from without. It…

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Why We Must Keep Nurturing Connection

…er times, a more destructive force is at play. Most of us have a “critical inner voice” that coaches us and lures us into self-limiting behavior. This “voice” is often its loudest when we’re alone, so that’s where it likes us to be. It can sound like a sadistic bully, chiming in with thoughts like, “Just keep to yourself. That person doesn’t really want to see you.” Other times, it may even sound soothing, feeding us thoughts like, “Why don’t you…

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Accepting “Good Enough” Friends and Partners

…le to them. Everything from our early attachment patterns to the “critical inner voice” that formed out of experiences that hurt us in the past can start to inform how we perceive loved ones. We may try to fit them in with molds from our history, or we may feel especially triggered by things that tap into old, painful emotions. Much of this is an unconscious process and requires a lot of reflection on our earliest lessons about relationships to un…

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Helping Clients Stop Self-Sabotaging

…rom taking positive risks. Learning to deal effectively with the “critical inner voice” is central to all areas of life: personal development, healthy relationships, self-esteem and career success. This Webinar provides participants with an introduction to Voice Therapy, a technique that can increase awareness of this internal dialogue, understanding its source and helping therapists assist clients in overcoming self-destructive behavior patterns,…

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How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships

…er dialogue that personifies these psychological defenses as our “critical inner voice.” The critical inner voice is a destructive thought process that acts like an internal parent and tends to assess, judge, undermine, and insult us as we move through our lives. “Don’t show her who you really are. She’d want nothing to do with you,” it warns. “You’re going to make a fool of yourself. Don’t put yourself out there,” it beckons. This “voice” reinfor…

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Avoidant Attachment: Understanding Insecure Avoidant Attachment

…lated self-image. How are patterns of attachment supported by the critical inner voice? The kinds of negative, distrustful, and hostile attitudes toward other people that are associated with a dismissing attachment style are compounded by destructive thoughts or critical inner voices. The overly positive and seemingly friendly views of self that are experienced by many avoidant individuals are also promoted by the inner voice and are often a cover…

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Stop Hating Yourself: A Method to Overcome Your Inner Critic

…rate from this internalized enemy. They can recognize when their “critical inner voices” start to attack them and act against their mean instructions. They can learn how to side with and strengthen their real sense of self and stop living with the limitations imposed on them by their inner critic. Learning Objectives: Apply techniques to identify and challenge destructive thinking in clients Identify and help clients address core beliefs that limi…

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Overcoming Depression: Two-Part Online Workshop

…ce: A cognitive/ affective/ behavioral approach to conquering the critical inner voice that drives depression Assessment instruments, homework exercises, and other tools that can help people separate from negative thoughts Specific actions and exercises people can engage in to reduce symptoms of depression Tools to enhance mindfulness, self-compassion, and a positive sense of self Depression the most common mental health disorder in the United Sta…

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