Self Development

To Heal Trauma, Free Your Most Compassionate Self

The experience of trauma makes a profound mark on a person. It doesn’t matter whether the injury is grave and evident, like the bruising of a battered person, or hard to see, like the emotional neglect of someone detached and withdrawn. Whatever the cause, when a person feels threatened, helpless, and unable to escape, that… Read more »

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What We Need to Know About OCD

Imagine having to wash your hands five times in a row just to feel clean enough to go to bed or needing to check your oven a dozen times before you believe it’s really off. Picture trying to go about your life, while being inundated with unwanted images that make you question whether there’s something… Read more »

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Mood Slave: Steps to Freedom by Weatherproofing our Well-being

Do you ever just wake up in a bad mood? Or someone says something to you that feels unkind and triggers you into a negative state of mind? Maybe you have a propensity toward depression and lose your will, your spirit, your gusto to stay engaged in life in ways that generate your creativity and… Read more »

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Forgiveness: 9 Steps to Break Free

At different points in our lives, many of us hold grudges against other people who we feel have hurt or offended us in some way or another. We can hold grudges for people who aren’t even alive anymore. We often hold onto grudges with the false notion that we are making the other person suffer by… Read more »

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Dealing with Unresolved Trauma

Recently, a friend of mine who suffers from chronic lower back pain came back from yet another visit to the doctor with a bit of unexpected advice. Instead of the usual discussion of shots, medications, physical therapy, or even surgery, his doctor recommended a book, Healing Back Pain: The Mind Body Connection. The book by… Read more »

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Breaking the Habit of Our Unhealthy Stress Cycle

Start Making Sense of Anxiety – See, Sense, Set a New Direction Raise your hand if you have never experienced anxiety. I’ve asked this question to thousands of people around the country when teaching about stress reduction, and not one person has raised their hand. What a relief to discover I am not the only… Read more »

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Voice Therapy

In my last blog, I described the “voice” as a series of negative thoughts and attitudes toward self and others, which are at the core of a person’s self-destructive ideology and behavior. As such, the voice can be conceived of as the internal enemy or anti-self aspect of the personality. My approach to psychotherapy is… Read more »

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It’s Time to Evict the Parents in Your Head

As adults, we are told to respect and appreciate our parents. We’re often reminded to sympathize with their struggles and forgive and forget any pain they caused. If we’re at odds with a parent, we’re encouraged to reconcile and maintain a relationship. While qualities like respect, kindness, compassion, gratitude, and forgiveness are all of great importance, they do… Read more »

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Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence

Watch Dr. Dan Siegel introduce his new book, Aware, an exploration of a groundbreaking meditation practice and the mind: “Travel Guide to the Mind” In the book, Aware:  The Science and Practice of Presence, you will learn a practical way to create well-being in your life.  Based on the science of meditation, this “travel guide… Read more »

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Factors that Increase or Suppress Death Anxiety

Death anxiety encompasses a broad spectrum of emotions ranging from a few passing moments of fear to a complete state of panic. In either case, the experience is painful on a feeling level or, at its worst, terrifying. For this reason, most people find a way to obliterate images of death’s finality from their conscious… Read more »

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