…erve the family’s legacy, learn more about the family, search for personal identity, gain some insight into the past, or heal from a traumatic experience. Writer Andre Aciman believes that people write memoirs because they want a second chance to make another version of their lives. When you write a memoir, you are writing your version of what you think happened from your own perspective. Someone else might have another version, and years and year…
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…me’s.’” To illustrate this point, he describes the process of losing one’s identity in a couple relationship as forming a smoothie, whereas when each person brings their individuality to their union, their relationship is like a fruit salad. Unfortunately, in creating an illusion of connection (or “Fantasy Bond“), a couple destroys their true feelings of compatibility and love. Only when a person is self-possessed can they live more harmoniously w…
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…d accept each others’ differences regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, race, ability, or religion and stand up for someone when they’re bullied. When a friend is feeling depressed or says they’re thinking of killing themselves, we must take it seriously and get them help.” – Daniel Radcliffe, Actor If you or someone you know is experiencing self-destructive or suicidal thoughts, it is essential that you seek help by talking to someon…
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…ten a difficult process for our adolescents. They struggle with a sense of identity and belonging, fear of stigma when it comes to mental health and behavioral disorders, isolation, moodiness (often encompassing clinical depression), career choice difficulty, and various peer-related difficulties. I am of the firm belief that a stable, healthy environment and parental support can offer enormous protection against typical teenage difficulties. Lear…
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…oneliness. The positive effects of Instagram include self-expression, self-identity, community building, and emotional support. Facebook was found to have similar negative effects to Instagram in the categories of bullying, FOMO, body image, anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Facebook also has a particularly negative impact on sleep. However, Facebook had some strong positive effects as well, particularly in the categories of emotional support…
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…we’re with someone or on our own, no one else can possess our story or our identity. We may leave a relationship feeling like we left part of ourselves behind, wondering how to move on without the other person, but the truth is we are still whole, still evolving, and still growing all the time. Keeping the imagery of movement in our minds is a way of preventing ourselves from being caught in the whirlpool of an inner critic that tells us we will n…
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…an make us. Many of us have deep, even unconscious fears of intimacy. There is real sadness and fear around allowing another person to really know us and to feel close to that person emotionally. Both intimacy and vulnerability challenge us to give up an old, familiar identity and form a new conception of ourselves in which we believe that we’ll be accepted for who we are. However, staying vulnerable helps us consistently recognize our value as a…
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…st (i.e. a love we didn’t feel as children). Love often provokes a painful identity crisis, as we’re seen in a new, more positive light. It disconnects people from a “fantasy bond” with their parents or early caretakers. It arouses guilt in relation to surpassing a parent or caretaker. Love stirs up painful existential issues and fears around loss. Are You Falling Out of Love or Falling Out of Fantasy? Many of us aren’t consciously aware of the wa…
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…thers feel better about themselves” (Meyer, 2010). Lying for gain includes identity theft, investment fraud, embezzlement, and other business fraud. On one end of the spectrum, you’ve got a little fudging on your own tax return; on the other end, you’ve got the rip-off scheme of Bernie Madoff. Meyer warns that dishonesty in the workplace is far more commonplace than most of us realize. Pathological or Compulsive Liars Compulsive or pathological ly…
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…” and he aims to help people in relationships express their attachment and identity emotions more fully. Learning Objectives: Describe different types of emotional expression. Assess when to regulate and when to access emotion. Plan to intervene differentially with emotion. For more information on Dr. Greenberg and Emotional Focused Therapy visit http://www.emotionfocusedclinic.org/ Order Now Ordering Information: Once payment is received, you wil…
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