…ps. Many people are afraid of being vulnerable or of losing their sense of identity by falling in love. These fears of physical and/or emotional intimacy tend to show up at various stages of a relationship when a person feels challenged. They also tend to arise in people’s closest and most meaningful connections. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone will explain both what causes this fear as well as how individuals can push past this fear and expan…
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…rom death through an imagined fusion with the membership. In merging one’s identity with that of a group, each person imagines that although he or she may not survive as an individual entity, he or she will live on as a part of something larger that will continue to exist after he or she is gone. The fantasy of invulnerability may be conscious or completely unconscious, but in either case there is anger and hostility if the Fantasy Bond is threate…
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…a secure attachment grow up better able to maintain their unique sense of identity, while still being able to connect with others. They can feel secure in themselves, while engaging in healthy modes of relating. You can learn more about how different attachment styles affect ways people relate as adults in my blog “How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationship.” Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment – Children may experience an anxious or preoccup…
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…he same ways they were hurt as children. 3. Being loved provokes a painful identity crisis When people have been hurt, they feel that if they accepted love into their life, the whole world as they have experienced it would be shattered and they would not know who they were. Being valued or seen in a positive light is confusing because it conflicts with the negative self-concept that many people form within their family. In the developmental proces…
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…carrying this uncertainty with us into adulthood could shake our sense of identity and limit us in different areas. To break this pattern of behavior, it’s valuable to acknowledge what’s driving it. We should always be willing to look at the source of our most self-limiting or self-destructive tendencies. When we try to cover up or hide from our past experiences, we can feel lost and like we don’t really know ourselves. We may take actions automa…
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…a reaction to our upbringing and don’t necessarily reflect our true unique identity and point of view. Creating a Path from “I Hate My Life” to Resilience and Self-Realization Length: 90 Minutes Price: $15 On-Demand Webinars In this Webinar: We all experience moments of utter despair in which we think “I hate my life.” Whatever we feel is going… Learn More For example, if we had a parent who couldn’t hold a job, perhaps we will find ourselves…
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…someone is thrilling and meaningful, but losing yourself and your separate identity in the mix is paving a dangerous road. People feel most attracted to their partner when they see them as someone separate from themselves, someone they are able to love, respect and appreciate for their unique qualities. When couples replace substance (real acts of love) with form (the practical roles of being in a relationship), they enter into a “fantasy bond.” T…
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…out common factors about the collection of items which make up our social identity, such as relating to others, acquiring knowledge which can all lead to forming an addiction or compulsion, while Dr. Susan Pearce’s book, Museums, Objects, and Collections continues along this vein of thought but sees it affecting and influencing us on a more personal level, for example, the objects we collect having a worldly meaning for the individual collecting….
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…dea of getting into a relationship feels like it would threaten their very identity – like they’d lose a part of who they are. They think of entering a relationship as a sacrifice. They believe they’d be losing their sense of independence and freedom and could miss out on future possibilities. The truth is, in a good relationship, just the opposite can happen. When two people get together, their worlds should grow, not shrink. We’ll meet new frien…
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…r negative traits, but we will have uncovered dimensions of our personality that are a fundamental part of our unique identity….
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