What Are Defenses?
…er to move on and to no longer be limited by them. Related Articles: Defenses Self-Limiting Behaviors How to Identify Your Critical Inner Voice…
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Making Peace with Our Bodies
…n does not liberate, it oppresses.” Consider this the next time you cast a critical glare at that part of your body that apparently did not get the memo that it was supposed to remain unchanged from its 18-year-old counterpart. Embrace reality, my friends. End the dictatorship that has oppressed your unsuspecting thighs, stomach or backside. Paradoxically, doing so does not relinquish you to the slovenly mound of mush you so fear — it frees up the…
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It Is Immoral To Stop People From Loving You
…f most personal problems by revealing a partially conscious system of self critical and hostile attitudes that people harbor towards themselves and others. In this therapy, clients learn to recognize their negative internal dialogue, and then take action against its being lived out destructively. They develop a more objective and realistic self-concept and build up their tolerance for love in intimate relationships. In becoming aware of the underl…
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The Deadly Recession: Dangers of a Down Economy
…ering as a result of unemployment are more vulnerable to self-attacks, or “Critical Inner Voices,” that in their most severe form can lead violent acts toward the self or others. Understanding the warning signs behind suicide and violence can help us save lives. With today’s uncertain economic climate, there has never been a better time to educate ourselves on these important issues. Common behaviors that can indicate violence risk: 1. History of…
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Angry at Love
…slight resistance to share activities we once both enjoyed, an increase in critical observations, lowered levels of passion, a slow breakdown of respect for each other’s independence and boundaries. When we act out these patterns of anger toward our partner, we are often truly angry at love itself. When our partner looks at us with kind eyes, it may start to get on our nerves. When he or she reaches for our hand, we may be a little more likely to…
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The Ways We Lie
…by being honest with yourself. First off, you can stop listening to your “critical inner voice.” Shading the truth often comes from listening to an inner coach that’s not on your side, that instructs you to self-protect by telling you things like you can only be accepted if you say the right thing or don’t really reveal yourself. In relation to your boss, it may tell you, “You’ve been messing up lately, so make your boss think you solved this pro…
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A New Look at Differentiation
…ogramming. The methods involve identifying destructive thought processes – critical inner voices — that are antithetical toward the self, those that are self-soothing and self-aggrandizing, yet destructive, and those that are hostile, paranoid and suspicious toward other people. The techniques also include developing insight into the sources of one’s destructive thoughts, answering back from one’s own point of view, and challenging the maladaptive…
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What Beyoncé Got Right About Forgiveness According to Science
…To do this, we must interrupt a destructive thought process known as the “critical inner voice.” This negative internal dialogue will feed us a steady stream of thoughts that keep us miserable. It will bark at us, “You were wronged. You’ll never be back to your old self. You’re damaged. You can never be free of the pain. They’ve ruined you. You’re not strong enough. This can’t be fixed. Hold on to the anger. Never let go.” When we inundate oursel…
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Your Worst Enemy is Within by Robert Firestone, Ph.D.
…! You’re a total failure!” Like these people, most of us are aware of self-critical thoughts that increase our nervousness or make us feel down or depressed. However, most of us underestimate the extent to which these hostile thoughts are directing our lives. The sneering, belittling self-attacks as described in the examples above are only the tip of the iceberg in terms of the underlying anger we feel toward ourselves. They are merely the more vi…
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Overcoming Your Inner Critic: A Video Interview with Robert Firestone, Ph.D.
…Dr. Robert Firestone explains the five steps of Voice Therapy, a process by which people can identify and overcome their “Critical Inner Voice.”…
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