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Insight into Extremism and the Terrorist Mentality

…group and a denial of any negative aspects or wrongdoing. Members project critical, hostile attitudes onto the “out” group, resulting in demonization of the outsider. This is best exemplified by the concept of ethnic cleansing where the “in” group is considered “clean” and the “out” group “dirty.” Rage is directed at any threat to their cause or belief system. Once this aggression is acted out, there are real grievances and hatred between the opp…

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Getting the Love You Want

…d pursuing. We may even get our partner to say things to us that represent critical thoughts that were directed toward us early in our lives. For example, if we were treated as incapable as kids, we may grow up with “critical inner voices” telling us we’re stupid or useless. In our relationship, we may start being forgetful or irresponsible in ways that provoke our partner to say and feel things toward us that reaffirm a core, negative sense of ou…

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Thinking Positively: Why You Need to Wire Your Brain to Think Positive

…self-criticism One of the biggest obstacles to thinking positively is the Critical Inner Voice. We all have an inner critic that loves nothing more than criticizing our every move. This inner critic can lead us into a spiral of shame or self-hatred. Ruminating on negative thoughts about ourselves, or others, only strengthens the neural pathways for negative thinking. In order to retrain our brains to think positively, we must stand up to our inne…

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Relationship Advice from Relationship Expert Dr. Lisa Firestone

…We asked relationship expert Dr. Lisa Firestone for her advice on everything from how to make love last to how to get over a devastating break-up. Watch her answers below. YouTube responded with an error: Invalid Value…

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Effective Ways to Fight Depression

…in 2010. To battle depression means taking on this internalized enemy or “critical inner voice.” Learning how to identify the self-destructive thoughts of this inner critic and learning how to take actions in our own self interest, is the beginning of challenging the roots of depression. In this Webinar, Dr. Lisa Firestone addresses ways we can identify and deal effectively with the negative thinking that leads to the destructive spiral of depres…

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Negative Feelings, Essential Signals on the Road of Life: Supporting our Children on their Path

…ing about negative feelings and their meaning helps our children attend to critical information so they can effectively navigate through their lives. In this day and age, there are infinite ways for our kids to attempt to avoid and escape negative emotions and discomfort. They have quick access to distraction and sources of entertainment in the palm of their hand. At almost any moment, they can grab mom’s cell phone out of her purse so they don’t…

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True Love: What Love Is and What It Is Not

…o as differentiation. This process involves four steps: Differentiate from critical, punishing, and destructive attitudes that you internalized in your early lives Differentiate from undesirable traits in your parents that you see in yourself Challenge the defensive reactions you had (as a child self) that no longer serve you in the present Formulating and learning to live by your own values – who do you want to be? Taking these steps of different…

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How to Get Your Relationship Out of a Rut

How to Get Your Relationship Out of a Rut

…chews his food so loud. She always slurps her coffee. When these types of critical thoughts take over, it is impossible to notice any acts of kindness. You have to shift your focus away from this negative thinking about your partner. It is helpful to identify these types of thoughts as critical inner voices that do not reflect your actual point of view about you or your partner. It’s like you have an inner coach running both of you down, actively…

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What Is Your Role in Your Relationship?

…d others to achieve what they “should.” This is often done in a driven and critical way that can feel controlling. The aim of both individuals, rather, should be to be proactive and self-assertive in their own lives and goals, thinking ahead and going after what they want. Defensive and angry vs. rigid and righteous: A parental partner can be closed off to other points of view, defensive, or even punishing when they receive feedback. They may coun…

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Ethical Decision-Making in Psychotherapy On Being Moral, Ethical and Professional

…mponent of ethics — virtue. Defensive medicine often takes precedence over critical thinking, soulfulness and care. The moral life is not simply a matter of rigidly following rules. The moral life is a matter of trying to determine the kind of people we should be and of attending to the development of character within ourselves and our communities. After covering the broader concerns with ethics, virtue, morality, cultural relativism, etc., the co…

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